Well as the title said. Me and my best friend like this girl, the 3 of us has been classmates since last year. And this is our 2nd year being in the same class, I used to like that girl last year but I just had a feeling that she didn't like me.. So I just gave up, only this year did I know that my friend, has also liked that girl last year. But he said he was going to give up. Same reason as mine, "I have a feeling that she doesn't like me"

At that time when he told me, I didn't have any feelings for her.. So I thought "Since I dont like her, why not help him" So I decided to help him by talking to her, getting to know her.. But that was a REALLY BAD choice, the more I helped my friend, the more I started to like her again. And one day I started to send her a text, trying to start a friendly conversation. And as days pass by, the feelings I had for her are back.

So one day I decided to ask her the really obvious question "Who do you like?" (Like any other guy talking to a girl they like) And she didn't want to tell me. So I just ignored it for awhile, about 2 weeks later when we were chatting about something in school. She suddenly asked "How long have you liked me?" And I was really interested in finding out her reaction so I told her the truth. What shocked me was that she said she already liked me since last year, and another text came in saying that if she waits for me any longer, she might as well not wait.

But the thing is, I can't LIKE HER. I don't want to hurt my friend, we're like brothers, and he's like my only friend now. I quarreled with all my other friends due to their stupid actions that pissed me off. Ok back to topic, if I ask that girl to go out with me, what if I hurt my friend? Then I'll lose my only friend, and relationships usually don't last long for me. Girls are always saying "Well I figured that you're not my type"

But for this, I really want to try.. Just once more, I just don't want to hurt my friend.. Please help me, I need some advice.

I think you should ask the girl if she likes your best friend too, and not just you. If she doesn't then your friend will have to move on. Trust me he'll get over it. But if she does like both of you, let her decide on who she wants more and if it's not you then it wasn't meant to be. Good luck!

Let the girl make her choice. If she chooses your friend, then you should be a good enough friend to accept her choice and maintain a friendship with both of them. If she chooses you, then hopefully your friend will accept you two as well.

Maybe she will choose neither of you and save you both the trouble! Plus, in my experience, a lasting friendship is much more valuable than a fleeting infatuation.

~ Tee