I broke up with my ex about 3 weeks ago because I was feeling ignored. We lived together in another state and took a plane home together. Once we got home it was like a different person. He seemed to brush me off and not say goodnight like he used to. So I got drunk and said how I felt via text. I know, bad idea!It ended with us breaking up.I said a lot of means things but so did he. The next day I appologized profusely only to be ignored.He ignored me for a few more days so I wrote something saying how he's being immature and that we should communicate. He responded angrily. I kept trying to appologize and basically did all the things you aren't supposed to do- text too much, call, message and still no response. The only time he would respond was when I said forget this and get angry. He had my stuff because we lived together and woulnd't give it back saying he's not ready to see me so I offered to have a friend go and get it after a week of NC. His response was that he was still hurting and wasn't ready. At this point of trying to communicate for weeks I got fed up and said I want my stuff so I can move on. I gave him an ultimatum saying either we act like adults and talk about what happened or we move on. He said he's not ready to see me and that I destroyed the way he felt about me. Hes playing the victim and won't let it go. I finally got my stuff after relentless nagging but we did not see each other face to face.Now I don't know if I should give him space and time and use NC or if he even sounds like he cares. I'm so confused. I miss him but I'm not sure if I should just move on. It's frustrating trying to communicate when you're being ignored and the person can only see their side. HELP. What should I do?

I think he has sent you a message, loud and clear. You need to back off, give him time to clear his head, wait for him to contact you.

Unfortunately this reminds me too much of Fatal Attraction: I will not be ignored. You broke up with him because you felt ingnored, and now won't leave him alone because he ignores you. I'm getting the impression that you don't like to be ignored. So find someone who doesn't ignore you.

Or at least leave him alone, and maybe absence will make the heart grow fonder. And then you can get back together, and start the cycle all over again.

I myself like a relationship that has a certain comfort derived from ignoring each other, going hours or days without saying much except did anyone get the mail or do you need anything at the store. If you are able to believe that someone loves you, you don't need attention.

Start the cycle all over again? No thanks. I finally got back my things and we haven't talked since last Wednesday. I'm all set.