I have been dating this guy for three months. When I met him he told me that he was single and I believed him. Three weeks late, he had a confession to make, he told me that he had a girlfriend whom he has been seeing for four months. I was so hurt because I already had feelings for him. We work in the same building, but different companies, we used to have lunch together, call each other everyday. I was so stupid to agree to go on with the relationship, because of the promises he made that he would leave her and they were having problems. I fell in love with him so much within a short period, I really thought he was the one for me. One and a half month ago, he broke up with her because he met her at a shopping centre with another man of which she denied she had any relationship with the person. He told me he did not buy the story and they broke up. A week ago he text me to tell me they got back together however he still care about me and wants me to be a part of his life. I was so furious and forced to end the relationship there and then. I am also angry with myself for letting myself be used like that. I really did not see it coming. I was blinded by the love that I felt for him. Its been a week after the break up and I can't believe that it is over and that my relationship ended over night.

Now he still wants us to be friends and continue to have our lunch breaks and conversations. I cry everyday because of the pain that he has caused me. I can't understand how can a person be so selfish. He didn't even consider my feelings in all of that. How can I get over him while he still wants to be friends with me? Won't it make it hard for me to get over him? I don't know how I will get over him... I still love him, he was a priority in my life, while I was only an option in his.

He is a cheat and a liar who took advantage of you.

No way should you stay friends with him;ignore him should you ever see him at work.

The only priority in his sad little life is himself.

Just say NO, and tell him to get lost, and leave you alone.

It really annoys me when people, men or women, try to pull the "lets be friends" business when they know there were feelings involved and the person who is saying that usually knows they are really hurting the other person so that is a cop out instead of just having a clean break. He is selfish, he lied to you by attempting to get into a relationship with you while already in another relationship,and then he did not leave the girl until he found she was cheating on him. The big mistake you made was that you should have realized early on that if he was picking up on you while having problems with his current girlfriend, don't ever make the assumption he won't do just the same to you. I really do not see what you could have loved about him as his treatment was so selfish. The only way you can get over him is to cut all communication ties - no talks, no breaks, no lunches -nothing at all. If not you are going to drag on the heart break forever and he will keep you, as you say, his "option".