One of my close friends has been staying with me. At first I thought it would be great because I was happy for the company. When she stayed before and did an annoying thing here or there I did not trip because I knew she was staying for a night or two. Now, she has been at my place for about a month, and it doesn't seem like she is making plans to move to her own place. Also she has slept in my bed, leaves trash around more often than I like, and still does when I am not there and this bothers me. We are also supposed to talk soon about sharing bills, but I am feeling that I may need to say something. I understand that I stay with my boyfriend a lot so she probably thinks it is not a big deal.
The issue is that we are also going into business together; more specifically, she has brought me on to be a major part of a growing organization. The opportunity came at a great time because I recently lost my job, Honestly, I don't have any significant problems with her staying with me, and she has been my friend for years so we get along fine. I just want to bring up a few key things that bother me, but I don't want to seem like an ahole because I didn't really say much about them before. But it does bother me now. I am also the type of person who sends out funny vibes when I am upset with a person and do not want to say anything. People usually pick up on it, and interpret things as worse than what I intend. But, I am just kind of blown that I feel I will have to have this talk about things that I would not do if I came to stay at another person's place. I want to address my issues, but I do not want to make things weird between us for friendship and business. Some advice please!

I think you remain calm and cool and tell you there a couple of things you'd like to address with her. And then address them. No blaming anyone, no guilt - just "I know this may not be important to you but it's important to me and ..." Give her the opportunity to think maybe it's you, not her.

And I would have the money conversation sooner rather than later.

Thanks for the response. I guess I don't want to seem petty, or that my mentioning of it roots into something deeper. I just did not expect some of her habits; or did not realize that these were habits instead of isolated incidences and its starting to get to me..

- So you tell her that this and that "get to you." Again, say maybe it's just the way you are BUT... compromise is the answer.

You have two choices - tell her and see what happens and or don't tell her and live like you're living.