My 11 year old daughter is severyly overweight and we try our best to modivate her but she doesn't want to loose the weight all she want to do I s watch TV and play video games and use the computer. She lives with me I am the mom with her stepfater her little sister and her grandma and we are all losing weight. She even has an outside dog but she never plays with it. She loes veggies and fruit she eats them all the time but she never looses the weight help me!

Why is she watching TV and playing video games and using the computer if you don't want her to?

You're the mom. Limit her TV time. Limit her video games time. Limit her computer time. One hour a day is more then enough for all three of those. Once that hour is up, the TV/games and computer are shut off, and she has to do something else.

She's 11. She's more then old enough for responsibility. When I was her age I had to walk my dog 2 times a day (at least), for an hour each time. So make her responsible for the dog. Two walks a day, 1 hour each walk. That will get her moving, and it will help her lose weight.

Stop buying snack foods, get only healthy foods. Make the snacks between meals healthy. Carrot sticks, crackers, fruit, etc. etc.

You're the mom. Make the rules. Stop letting her make them.

? Does she tell you when she will get up and run the house ?

Who in heavens name is the parent. Take the video games away and not have them unless she meets or does certain goals. Unplug the TV and so on.

You're the parent. You direct the child. She doesn't direct you.

If the dog is outside and neglected, find it a new home.

You're the parent. You need to set guidelines and stick with them.

You are giving her way too much power!

TV and video games are privilege.

You are letting her get away with so much and teaching her that she can be lazy and irresponsible, and by that I mean not giving that poor dog attention.

She needs more structure throughout her day, and I don't mean with TV and games.

If I were you, I would make a structured, proactive list consisting of how the day will run. Then I would implement them.

For example:

7:00 a.m.- Everyone wakes up and makes their own beds.

7:15 a.m.- A healthy substantial breakfast is served. (Afterwards, girls clean their own mess)

8:00 a.m.- Getting ready for the day. Girls get ready on their own, brush teeth, brush hair, etc...

So on... I think you get the idea.


The through out the day, give them activities. Painting, drawing, park time, anything educational, take them to the library...

Then at 11:30 a.m. serve them a healthy lunch. Healthy snacks, such as apples and peanut butter.

Read them a book before bed. Make sure baths are taken.

Limit TV time.

The great thing is that YOU are incharge. Not them. Teach them about motivation, respect, and responsibility.

Kids need structure. They rely on us as parents to help guide them, even if they fight us sometimes, they, in the end, will have respect for us.

I am a Mother of three itty bittys, and I run a tight ship at my house. I will say this, my 3 and 4 year old know how to swim and read. I enforce many rules, and I am also a softy when needed, but they are very polite children who say excuse me, before interupting.

You can do this...