I haven't had sex for 2 years and I keep having sex dreams why? I don't want to just go out there and do anybody what should I do?

How old are you?

I am 35

Well, at 35 with 4 children I'm sure you've heard of masturbating. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriage/tunisian-marriage-583654.html

Your choices appear to be - make some type of marriage arrangement with your internet friend (very bad idea), meet someone you are attracted to and have sex with that person (4 children and single, this may not be a good idea) or masturbate.

How about building a healthy social life, with friends, family, and activities you enjoy? Its not sex, and your horny, but you have to pursue fulfillment in healthy ways because you are raising 4 kids. Temporary self relief is an option. Taking the time to have a good loving trusted partner is another. In person, not online. That's dangerous.

Sex dreams happen whether you are having sex or not. If they are dreams and not daydreams, they are your mind working through things. It may be about sex. It may be about relationships. It may be about a movie just finished watching. However, having sex isn't going to make them go away.

If you feel the need for sexual release, masturbation is a lot safer than other options especially marrying someone from Tunis who you have only been communicating with for four months.

Invest in a sex toy... I recommend a rampant rabbit. Nothing wrong with sex aide's and masturbation. :)

wow I never tried a sex toy I guess it couldn't hurt =)

So daydreaming about sex is a bad thing? Yes I know about the Tunisian man he is no good but for some reason I can't get him off my mind

Yes I know health ways are good, I think I am lonely maybe that's way I talk to people online

Yes so have a one night stand? In a hotel of course

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Originally Posted by Cat1864
Sex dreams happen whether you are having sex or not. If they are dreams and not daydreams, they are your mind working through things. It may be about sex. It may be about relationships. It may be about a movie just finished watching. However, having sex isn't going to make them go away.

If you feel the need for sexual release, masturbation is a lot safer than other options especially marrying someone from Tunis who you have only been communicating with for four months.

So daydreaming about sex is a bad thing? Yes I know about the Tunisian man he is no good but for some reason I can't get him off my mind

Did I say that daydreaming was bad? I was making a distinction between the involuntary dreaming that occurs during sleep and the conscious fantasizing of daydreaming.

So you can't stop thinking about a stranger. It's a very common fantasy. It doesn't mean you have to act on it in real life.

A one night stand is not a smart thing to do. Among the reasons not to have one: sexually transmitted diseases (some deadly), strangers (or acquaintances) who may not be what they seem, possible pregnancy (unless you don't have your sexual organs anymore, there is still a chance however slight), etc.

Build up your social life. Enjoy your fantasy life. Someday you will find someone who you want to share both parts with. Be patient and take care.

I am 35