So I have a quick question for you guys. I've been flirting with this girl I really like for about a month now and she's really shy and a little awkward sometimes. I've been making her laugh and giving her rides home but what she tells me about her personal life is few and far between. She's told me a lot but it was really hard to get it out of her.

But anyway I've started to get a little frustrated because I`m always chasing her and she only makes an effort if I don't. If I don't text her she will text me a one liner. If I don't talk to her at school she finds me and asks me what's the matter and stuff.

But the other night I was with a friend of mine that goes to school with us and he wants to sleep the same girl. The thing is I`m not like that. I actually like her a lot and I`d like a relationship with her. But she texted him an he smiled and showed me in the car. It`s not like its anything big she's talking to him about but still. And it frustrated me because I`m so nice to her. I make her laugh and smile every day, I make her feel special. I have to pry teeth to get her to talk to me about anything personal. He comes to school with hickeys on his neck and sex jokes and he visually makes her uncomfortable I can tell. Yet she will text him even though he makes maybe half the effort I do.

So the other night I completely avoided her. Didn't take my spares with her. Didn't chase her around all day. She walked by me and asked how I was an had a confused look on her face and asked why I didn't come say hi. I just acted busy.

But my question is. I need to know if she really likes me or not right. Am I doing the right thing by not pursuing for a little while.

Oh and I`m a uni student by the way.

Thanks everyone.

Why not just be forward and ask her out. Make a date and make it official. I am thinking she likes you to some extent because when you pull away she reaches out. That's a good sign right there.

Unfortunately it sounds like she just sees you as a good friend.

But if you want to know for sure, then stand your ground. Stop chasing her around. Tell her how you feel and see how she responds.

If she likes you, then you will be together. If she doesn't, then she won't be with you.

No need to keep over analyzing all her actions and words. Just get to the bottom of this.

If she decides not to be with you as your girlfriend, then move on from her. Quit putting your life on hold for someone who doesn't feel the same way.

I also agree that she like you, but yes, let her show you a little more than 1 liners as you put it for a while. Or better still, be honest, lay your cards, suggest a date and leave the ball in her court.

As for this other dude, all is fair in love and war. Only she knows what kind of Guy she is attracted to, and if it is the 'love them and leave em' type then you don't need to worry about her as she will just bring issues to you and potentially cause you to behave out of character to maintain her attention.

So you get angry, frustrated and jealous because another dude is texting the girl you want.

Forget the competition, take the opportunity to tell her that she is hard to talk to, and you are interested in her. Then you will have an idea where you stand, and what you should do about it.

The direct approach is usually the most quick way to the truth, assuming, presuming, jealousy, and fear get you nowhere but frustrated. But you already know that.

As the others have said, ask her out and end your confusion.

I do have a bit of different take on her actions though. She may be interested in you and like him as a friend. Sometimes it is easier to talk to the person you have no desire to be with than it is to open up to someone who matters to you.