View Full Version : Hatred, frustration, and loneliness.
ArlieBeary
Jun 23, 2011, 02:13 AM
So I'm on my summer vacation. Yeah it sucks and there's nothing exciting about it. I just want to unleash my melancholy. Help if you can/want! I feel like my family is not my family!
1. My mom keeps yelling at me all day long and so does my sister for not doing everything they want, they can even hit me to force me do things.
2. My dad doesn't talk to me, he doesn't even care if I'm hurt of not and he prefers my younger brother over me.
3. My mom keeps complaining about me.
I know, One day I'll kick them out of my life. All I need is patience.
Thanks for your time. Bye
amicon
Jun 23, 2011, 03:26 AM
How old are you?
If you're a teenager all this is normal.
ArlieBeary
Jun 23, 2011, 10:49 AM
Do you think so?
Wondergirl
Jun 23, 2011, 10:52 AM
What chores do you have to do? Do you do them when you're supposed to?
88sunflower
Jun 23, 2011, 10:57 AM
I agree if you're a teenager this could be normal. The only thing not normal is you said they hit you to force you to do things. Even if this only happened one time it is wrong and should not happen. If you're a teenager then more will be expected out of you then your little brother. That's just the age thing.
I wish
Jun 23, 2011, 11:08 AM
Are you in your early, mid or late teens?
Would you be going away for college?
nasilele
Jul 11, 2011, 11:23 AM
The problems you are going through have nothing to do with your age or the point you are in your life. A lot of the times people often over look issues like this because they feel its an adolescent phase that in time will all go away. Adolescent or not, this is too much mental stress for anyone. Whether you're the problem or your family, there is still a problem and no, it will not just go away in time. It is not normal. There are plenty of families out there that have teenagers and do not go through this sort of constant drama. Most importantly, patience is the key to your freedom. If indeed you are a difficult person, this character will follow you even past adolescence. It will not go away once you stop being a teenager. Deal with the issue not accept it, as a phase.
51 really?
Jul 17, 2011, 11:52 AM
Wow tough day. The cool thing about your rant is that it shows me you could be a writer you have great passion it comes across in your written words. Keep it up maybe think about writing a book about being a teenager and how hard it is to understand the people around you, just a thought. With that said I would like to acknowledge your stress and know that this to shall pass. I would also like to give you a different perspective It's not about you. You said your mom and sister yell at you but I bet if you really got out of your own head you could see what is truly going on with your mom-is she stressed about something like maybe work, money, your dad, sister, life? 'She' is the one with the problem not you. You just happen to be someone she can relieve her stress on, she, just doesn't know how to fix herself so you may in the lucky position of being the only person that she can "YELL AT" her 'stress relief'. Get it. If you really are doing everything right know that and understand it's not about you, really. It's a really big burden on you and it's not fair but people are only human. Next time she starts up, try not fighting it, let her go at it and then just simply say OK or sorry or I understand, see if you can help her by just being the person you are,, does this make any sense? She really does love you very much, really, and you know that in your heart. You say your dad doesn't like you, REALLY, sounds to me like you are going victim on me there mister. PERSPECTIVE again, What's going on in your dads world? Is his job great, does he drive the car he wants, is he happy? The older you get the more you will notice that men have a hard time communicating their emotions. Many many people stop talking because they can't voice what they are feeling. I think your dad may be in a place where he is not sure what you want or most importantly need from him. Could this be the case? Remember it's not you it's him, not your fault he is having trouble understanding his role as your father. That dam Human factor again, we as people want to do right but sometimes we're not sure what that should look like or how to do it. Our whole life is a learning process. Perhaps you could ask your dad out and have a conversation with him let him know that you understand that he is doing the best he can and that you love him. Tell him what you need from him... He really doesn't know. I promise, because once he does know he will give you everything you need. That's what all us parents want, our kids to be happy and feel our love. Start to notice other people and what they are living. Your sister, friends, little brother because as much as we want it "It's not all about me Are you old enough to understand what I am sharing with you, I hope so because I personally did not learn this lesson until I was 48 years old. That my friend is a long time playing the victim role. Learn this lesson now, you will understand so much more than most people-what ever weird, bad or crazy things from people come at you know: it's not about you it's THEM, so let it go and move on.
Hope the rest of your break is better...
Fr_Chuck
Jul 17, 2011, 02:25 PM
And why don't you merely do what they ask when they ask ( mom) and they don't have to yell.
If you lived in my home and I told you to do something, I would expect it done