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My name is Victor, I live in Budapest, Hungary. Sorry if I make some grammar mistakes.

This is my story.

My girlfriend and I were together for 4 years. She was the love of my life and I was the same to Her. We never loved anyone the way we loved each other.
We had these problems with me not being entirely an adult and She couldn't rely on me. She was alone with everyday problems. I can see that She was right.

About a month ago She left. It was the hardest thing in my life and my heart literally broke into pieces. She said She still loves me but She can't go on like that.
For days I couldn't do anything than mourn my loss. Nothing mattered. I mean I loved Her with all my heart, almost from day 1 We knew that We want to get married and have children.
What We had was very strong.

One day I googled: How to get my ex back and I found lots of articles,advices and the no contact rule.

That gave me a lot of strength and hope. I started to be positive and started to figure out a plan. I kept this thing going for 3 weeks.

Yesterday however, We had to speak about work, since We work for the same company. (Not in the same building tho)

I felt that She was a bit cold. (Weeks ago We had another short phone conversation and She was crying.)I asked Her if She wanted to have a coffee with me next week. She told me She'd think about it. But She didn't show any emotions. It was terrible. From the moment We hung up, all I could think about: Is She over me? I thought it's all right, We broke up for a reason, what do I expect?

I was tormenting myself with stupid thoughts and in the evening I called Her. I told Her that I don't think it would be a really good idea to hang out just yet, cause I don't feel myself ready.

She told me She thinks the same, and as We started to chat, We got to the part when We started a little fight over this thing between us. See, my opinion is that We could fix this. And She's like: I had 4 years to do so, She feels good right now, as She doesen't have to deal with the everyday problems, and I shouldn't hope. I should just get over it, She told me. She doesen't believe I can change and She doesen't want me to change for us, or to do anything for us.

Now... I feel like on that day, when She left. I think I will start the NC again and see 1 or 2 months from now if there's any chance, but I'm really afraid that She made up Her mind and that's it. She's so stubborn and rational. While I'm the more emotional one.

Later on that night I wrote her a letter,about... I can't believe that She doesen't miss all the good things and I wasn't begging,pushing, but asked Her to sometimes think about the followings:

1. Does She really think that We couldn't fix this. (at the moment I know she thinks: NO)
2. Does She really think I couldn't change and by the wy remain the same person She fell in love to.
3. Sometimes put Her super smart and rational brain on the sideline and believe that I am capable of the things She'd desire from a relationship and think of me with good heart.

Maybe this was a mistake, but I had something's to come out.

Now, even that She told me that it's over. I'm hoping. I'm going to start a new job with a really godd payroll and I can start to move to a good direction with my life.

I just hope that We can meet within 1 or 2 months. And I can show a man that She desires. And I can just hope that She will look at me that way.

I don't know if anyone reads this, but this was a lesson for me. I have to give it more time. And hope is all I have right now.

In Hungary We have a saying, maybe you guys have it too in a different version. It says: Hope is the last thing that dies. We'll see.

My name is Victor, I live in Budapest, Hungary. Sorry if I make some grammar mistakes.

This is my story.

My girlfriend and I were together for 4 years. She was the love of my life and I was the same to Her. We never loved anyone the way we loved each other.
We had these problems with me not being entirely an adult and She couldn't rely on me. She was alone with everyday problems. I can see that She was right.

About a month ago She left. It was the hardest thing in my life and my heart literally broke into pieces. She said She still loves me but She can't go on like that.
For days I couldn't do anything than mourn my loss. Nothing mattered. I mean I loved Her with all my heart, almost from day 1 We knew that We want to get married and have children.
What We had was very strong.

One day I googled: How to get my ex back and I found lots of articles,advices and the no contact rule.

That gave me a lot of strength and hope. I started to be positive and started to figure out a plan. I kept this thing going for 3 weeks.

Yesterday however, We had to speak about work, since We work for the same company. (Not in the same building tho)

I felt that She was a bit cold. (Weeks ago We had another short phone conversation and She was crying.)I asked Her if She wanted to have a coffee with me next week. She told me She'd think about it. But She didn't show any emotions. It was terrible. From the moment We hung up, all I could think about: Is She over me? I thought it's all right, We broke up for a reason, what do I expect?

I was tormenting myself with stupid thoughts and in the evening I called Her. I told Her that I don't think it would be a really good idea to hang out just yet, cause I don't feel myself ready.

She told me She thinks the same, and as We started to chat, We got to the part when We started a little fight over this thing between us. See, my opinion is that We could fix this. And She's like: I had 4 years to do so, She feels good right now, as She doesen't have to deal with the everyday problems, and I shouldn't hope. I should just get over it, She told me. She doesen't believe I can change and She doesen't want me to change for us, or to do anything for us.

Now... I feel like on that day, when She left. I think I will start the NC again and see 1 or 2 months from now if there's any chance, but I'm really afraid that She made up Her mind and that's it. She's so stubborn and rational. While I'm the more emotional one.

Later on that night I wrote her a letter,about... I can't believe that She doesen't miss all the good things and I wasn't begging,pushing, but asked Her to sometimes think about the followings:

1. Does She really think that We couldn't fix this. (at the moment I know she thinks: NO)
2. Does She really think I couldn't change and by the wy remain the same person She fell in love to.
3. Sometimes put Her super smart and rational brain on the sideline and believe that I am capable of the things She'd desire from a relationship and think of me with good heart.

Maybe this was a mistake, but I had something's to come out.

Now, even that She told me that it's over. I'm hoping. I'm going to start a new job with a really godd payroll and I can start to move to a good direction with my life.

I just hope that We can meet within 1 or 2 months. And I can show a man that She desires. And I can just hope that She will look at me that way.

I don't know if anyone reads this, but this was a lesson for me. I have to give it more time. And hope is all I have right now.

In Hungary We have a saying, maybe you guys have it too in a different version. It says: Hope is the last thing that dies. We'll see.