About a month ago, my girlfriend of 4 years just left. We moved in together and she stayed with me for around 2 months and then just left. She organised a place to stay behind my back and got her friends to help her. At first, I wasn't so hurt, hoping and even thinking that she'll be back. We text messaged a few times and she even told me she loved and missed me so much. We spoke once and she was crying and my heart went out to her. She left everything and went to a place where she has to start all over again. I message her so much and try to call her, but she never answers. I post messages on Facebook and she never replies. Just like that, she's moved on and now a month after she has gone, I'm down and out. I'm crushed. So crushed that a week ago I threatened to put nude photos of her on Facebook (I wouldn't have), I just wanted to talk to her, to hear her voice, so I attempted a threat and it backfired. She went to her friends husbands lawyer and wanted to see me in court. I made a mistake, and now she won't even message me. I don't know how to live without her. I still message her and say sorry. Tell her I love her and miss her. I cry so much. I can't breathe. Each morning I wake up feeling I can't live. And each night I sleep thinking of her. I wake up throughout the night and just think of her. I talk about her to my work friend. I admitted to my friends that I am in depression and will now seek counselling. My health isn't great and business is going down because I can't work, I have no energy nor strength to carry on working. Meanwhile, she has all the strength, happiness and health. Even though she has a worse place that she lives in, I know she's sleeping better at nights and has better days. I wish her happiness because she's a great person, but I also wish she comes back and hope that we'll sort it all out. I made a lot of mistakes. But why did she leave without attempting to work it out? I can't eat, sleep, breathe. I really feel like I can't live. I'm so emotionally destroyed and my friends tell me I'll get over her, but the truth is, I loved her so much, that I can't imagine life without her. I'm so sad. I miss her so much. I love her and each day, it gets harder to be without her. She was my life.

You'll probably never have the answers you're looking for and making stupid threats not the way to get someone to talk to you.

Leave her alone-get rid of the pictures-and seek counselling asap .

How old are you? I have to know so I can decide on whether to give you the adult answer, or the teen answer.

It may be harsh, but it will be the truth. You might not even want to hear it, so I need your age please.

I know, even when I did it, I knew I messed up. I have to throw out all her memories and start counselling tomorrow. Thanks mate. Just hurts so much.

I'm 31 years old. And be as harsh as you can be. I deserve it. Thank you.

Your impulsive bad behavior screwed things up, and now you have to own and accept the consequences of your actions. Forgive yourself, and move forward with your life as you heal and rebuild a life that you enjoy.

Instead of sitting on the pity pot, and crying in your soup, consider yourself lucky to have learned a valuable lesson for the future, and have confidence that you will do better with the next opportunity.

Your attitude sucks and could stand some work, so get busy being a better person, in actions, not just words.

I got to tell you, if you can be with someone that long and have no clue what was on there minds, then maybe you weren't paying close enough attention, or she was being deceptive. I don't know, and really doesn't matter now. All that matters is what you do about it, and getting some dignity, and self respect back.

Time to learn how to live without her, and hope you get help for your depression.

I just had the same thing happen to me! :(