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monique2319
Jun 18, 2011, 05:04 PM
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 years now. It started okay for a couple of months, I wans't a lot but we had sex. Then later on we had sex maybe once every three months. Then after that it went down hill, I would have keep asking him, its like I was begging my man for sex. We would have oral sex once in a while that's the most I could get out of him. We talk and our relationship is good other wise but when I talk to him about sex, he would get upset, or ignore, he does not want to talk about it. And its been like this for 5 years now and if I would touch his privates he pushes me away and gets upset. I love him, he tells me he loves me so what's the problem, we laugh we have fun together. I asked him to go to the doctor he doesn't want to. I just want him to tell me what's wrong, I feel like I am the problem. In a way I think he is not interesed in me anymore, and sometimes I just feel like leaving him. Can anyone help me please? (I tried to keep it short)

dwashbur
Jun 18, 2011, 05:09 PM
If he absolutely, positively, unequivocally won't talk to you about it or see a professional about it, won't even give you a hint as to why he's acting like this, then it's time for you to leave.

True941
Jun 18, 2011, 06:19 PM
I was reading this and it just like my life but we started with great sex every day now its been 2 yr. of nothing. We been together for 7 yr this Nov. I know how youe feel I feel the same way :(

martinizing2
Jun 18, 2011, 07:03 PM
How old are the two of you?

Age may be a factor and we need to confirm your age before we answer.
Together 7 years tells me you are old enough , hopefully you were older than 12 or 13 when you got together.

Serenity788
Jul 22, 2011, 08:09 PM
I certainly understand how you feel other than the sex my boyfriend laughs with me, we have fun, do evrything together, I believe it is phycological and your boyfriend needs help, but like everything in life unless he wants to get help no one not even you can help him... I also use to feel it was me and cry myself to sleep... I also wish that he would go to counseling because it really hurts and I want so badly to be intimate with him , but no way I feeel torn to say with him or leave because all the other aspects of our being together is good. He is older than I 69 years old... I feel I need help too to cope and I am seriously thinking of going to a couselor. I can only given yo comfort in it is not you and maybe you also can get some help for you. Signed Know how you feel...