I am a 18 year old boy. I read in college. We are only 3 members in our family me my father and my Mother.My mother had and having some illegal relations with different persons .when was in class seven she left us and went to her illegal partner( she also had some other relations before) but in 6 months that guy took all her money (3-4 lac Taka which was my fathers) and left her so she returned to our family by the sake of her children ( me and my sister) after one from then my sister got married and my mother starts another relationship with another person. After knowing that my father broke relationship with her but she is not willing to leave this place.Its been 2 years that things are going this way. My father is keeping her here only for taking care of me . But she never takes care of me she seems always busy with her illegal partner when ever I got ill she never takes any care of me.she never cooks any thing what I want to eat , she earns equal or little less then my father but she does not bare any of my expenses. She never stops me to do any kinds of bad things . She also offer me to buy her alcohol,weed etc. when ever I try's to say any things to her she keeps saying you can't say any things to me,because I am your mother,if I want to say, you never took any responsibilities of me and you never take any care of me, she says I feeds you my milk and that is enough.Me and my father always wants her to leave us but she is not at all agree to leave this place and she is giving money for her staying to my father so my father stops saying any things to her. She is doing illegal things in front of me so if I try's to stop her will it make me sinner ? And if I ask for my rights from her will make me sinner in Islamic way ? I always try support her in good things for her I always been humiliated from my known ones . I lost all my respects to my mother so often I used to shout on her... and she always curse me... and say even if mother is prostitute son can never talk to mother like this

So please tell me what should I do,I really need help (Islamic way)


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1. She does not have any other children
2. The persons she is in relations are mostly married persons
3. She says that she married those persons ( she is not divorced with my father properly, those persons family doesn't know about the relations)
4. My mother and father are not staying in same bed

5. My Father is very much busy with his work he often do not come home for his work and normally he returned home at 9

OK-you posted it on LEGAL /Family law/ Board but I still cannot see a legal question .

I(3-4 lac Taka w9
I assume you are in Bangladesh.
According to the Sharīʿah law she has to be caught and stoned to death ,or to be sentenced to 100 lashes ,but it is another question.
The Qur'an Verse 24-2 says: "The woman and the man guilty of adultery or fornication flog each of them".

So please tell me what should i do,I really need help (Islamic way)
Try to convince your father to say TALAQ three times;);)

Oh please, you are in COLLEGE, you have no respect for your mother, and you STILL expect her to prepare meals for you? Grow up and start cooking, or get a job and a wife of your own.

I wouldn't begin to try to answer any of your questions. It isn't even clear if your parents are still married or not. It actually sounds like they aren't, and are sharing the house in separate rooms for convenience. So stay out of a subject that is between the two of them.

Re to joypulv
Yes they are separated they live in two different rooms
I lost respect to her because she never do any things for me even on that time when I don't even understand the respect an you moron I assumed every one ans it in Islamic way
And in our country getting job and getting married is not that simple in the age of 18
And yes I am cooking my own meals most of the time
And yes I would definitely stayed out if it between my father and mother I can't only because her activity makes me humiliated from others

You have no status what so ever, it is your fathers duty to control his wife's action, as a child of this women and of your father, you can not or should not act except to speak of the matter to your father

...are sharing the house in separate rooms for convenience. So stay out of a subject that is between the two of them.



You do not have understanding about Islamic culture and life.
Allah, the Almighty, says, "You conform (yourself) to sublime morality"(Al-Qalam 68:4).and it requires the Muslim to live within an Islamic framework for all life conditions and circumstances.
According to the Islamic point of view the adultery is sin and must be punished/yes-there is moral element,not only financial as it is in the USA-Howard S. v Lillian S.2009 NY Slip Op 01880 [62 AD3d 187]:Adultery, paternity fraud don’t affect property division in New York.A wife's infidelity and her alleged concealment from her spouse of their child's paternity does not rise to a degree of moral turpitude./


Adultery is one of the most heinous of sins in Islam. No Muslim is permitted to cohabit with a spouse who has committed such a heinous sin. Allah says, "the pure ones are for the pure." And "the filthy ones for the filthy." Therefore to cohabit with a person who is committing adultery, male or female, is sinful; it is, at once, repugnant to one's Islamic sense and sound nature.

If the adultery of a spouse is proven or there is a confession, the spouses must immediately separate their beds. However, divorce does not follow automatically.
If the wife has sincerely repented, and the husband is convinced of it, then he is permitted to keep the marriage. However, if there is no sign of repentance, then it is not permitted for a Muslim to keep such a wife, or a husband as the case may be.
That was the reason for me to advise ashek.ahmed to ask his father to say talaq three times/that means to divorce her legally/

I agree with ashek.ahmed that all his relatives /incl.him/are humiliated.THAT'S THE PROBLEM!ashek.ahmed has right to want it stopped.

Please don't tell me what I do or do not understand.
I will not quote scripture about stoning to death or flogging just because it makes me look knowledgeable.
Everyone knows about saying talaq 3 times; this isn't funny.
I put in my opinion - so kick me off the site.
I don't care how many times ashek ahmed negs me.

Please don't tell me what I do or do not understand.
I will not quote scripture about stoning to death or flogging just because it makes me look knowledgable.
Darbesh Khan and his wife Aklima Begum had to watch their 14-year-old daughter, Hena Akhter, being whipped to death, as the local Imam sentenced her to 101 lashes. Hena was raped by her cousin, an older man named Mahbub Khan, who was given 201 lashes as his punishment...
/from internet/
Why you are so upset-it happens in Bangladesh and in some places it is the norm.If you think that my purpose here is "to look knowledgeable",you are mistaken.It causes offense to me.

I put in my personal opinion.
... on a legal board??

The law is cold.The law is not about personal feelings and opinions.
Let's imagine a situation: a killer goes to me and asks,"I have just kill a man.What to do?" My opinion is that killer should be hanged or at least sentenced for life, but I have to answer,"Burn the body and hide the weapon".That's the way the law works.

... Let's imagine a situation: a killer goes to me and asks,"I have just kill a man.What to do?" My personal opinion is that killer should be hanged or at least sentenced for life, but I have to answer,"Burn the body and hide the weapon".That's the way the law works.

I hope that's not what you would counsel the murderer. If so, you would be an accessory after the fact. :(

I hope that's not what you would counsel the murderer. If so, you would be an accessory after the fact. :(

Mwhahaha-no one can prove it!
But I have to agree with you-it is unheard an Attorney-at-law to advise his/her client to hide the truth! It has never happened and it will never happen!:eek::D:D:D

Perhaps GV70 is not really off the deep end here, but is deliberately stirring up controversy. Too bad others won't weigh in.
Of course personal feelings enter the law, all the time. There wouldn't be courts, judges, lawyers, and juries if we didn't INTERPRET the law, and our personal feelings, experiences, politics, religions, and cultures enter all of it.
Just because some countries allow the scriptures to be law of the land doesn't give them the right to be treated as legal questions on a legal board. That's MY argument.

In the US, women's prisons are full of women who killed abusive men. The ones with expensive lawyers aren't in prison, because it was successfully argued that they couldn't just escape when they had it beaten into them that they would be found and killed. So it was self defense. And all the ones without good lawyers? They committed murder.
Please stop telling me that a legal board has to just quote the law. Once a law is clear there should be room for OPINION. Much like what goes on in a courtroom.

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Just because some countries allow the scriptures to be law of the land doesn't give them the right to be treated as legal questions on a legal board. That's MY argument. ...

If the law of the land is based on scripture, it's still the law of the land. And if that's the case, discussion of that law would be legitimately on this forum.

However it's not perfectly clear that, with respect to OP, that is the case.