View Full Version : Why does everybody hate me?
Noonelikesme
Jun 10, 2011, 04:52 PM
My dad doesn't show he loves me, my mom has been away for about five years, I'm fourteen and I don't really have any true friends I can talk to. I don't have the support I really wish I had from anyone. People are always there to say nothing but the worst, and I try not to show that any of it affects me. I cry daily knowing no one likes me and only want the support I dreamed of. Instead, I go on day by day going through the same things and once in a while have thoughts of suicide. I need help.
martinizing2
Jun 11, 2011, 03:42 AM
I doubt that everybody hates you. I am more inclined to think that nobody really hates you , but you feel lost and lonely because of your situation.
I am sorry to hear that your mother is away and has been for so long.
Not having mom around to help is a big issue for teenage girls who usually get help from mom. She has gone through that stage of life and can be helpful in giving advice and comfort.
Your dad may not show you love the way you think you he should , but as a dad myself I can tell you that I thought all my daughters ( I have 3) knew that I loved them and how important they are to me. But they didn't I came to find out.
I am assuming that your dad is a single parent (you didn't mention if there was another woman in the picture) and this is a tremendously hard job. I did it too. It can make you forget many things like taking time to make sure that the ones you do love know it .
I'll bet he would be surprised if you told him you don't know how he feels , I was until I realized how distant I'd become because I was all wrapped up in my job and trying to maintain a household and raise kids .
I'll bet your dad loves you a lot and just needs you to tell him how you feel to make some changes that will reassure you he does.
Dads need to be told outright . They don't pick up on hints or notice emotional up and downs too much. They need the truth smacked across their face to notice it.
Try taking time to have a good long talk with your dad and give him a chance to become aware that his "baby girl " (thats how dads see their girls all their lives ) is becoming a woman and needs his support.
Also problems like yours can be addressed very well by professionals who are you but often not noticed or utilized.
Your counselor at school can be very helpful in giving you perspective on your situation. Don't hesitate to talk to them or a teacher you may like and trust.
Try talking to dad and see if it helps.
Then come back and let us know how it's going and we can go from there to find the path that will bring you some comfort and happiness that is out there waiting for you to find it. And it really is.
I'll be watching for you to answer.
Cheyenneann
Jun 24, 2011, 01:44 PM
Nobody Hates you. If your Dad is being a crabby head and isn't showing love then you ask him why he isn't. And don't think about going suicide you know why? Because you are so much smarter then to think suicide Where do you live we can hang out go shoppin and all that fun stuff I am 13teen and I always use to think the same thing you did but eventually I got to know people by asking them about them self and doing stuff the liked to do! And soon you will have a friendship unbreakable! Get the people to know you!
kcomissiong
Jul 1, 2011, 09:00 AM
Sorry for the harshness that is coming: As a former really BRATTY teenager who sometimes thought that my parent's didn't love me, I actually think you are being a little narrow minded and selfish. Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have clean clothes to wear? Does your father work to pay the bills, and make sure you have the things that you need? He loves you, and you shouldn't be upset because he isn't showing it in the way that YOU want.
You are probably familiar with this from your mother being gone, but not all parents support their children. Not all parents are there day in and day out. You need to give the man some credit. Furthermore, if you would just tell him what you need from him to feel more secure (ie: verbal affirmation, praise, etc) I'm sure that he would give it to you. He is not a mind reader, and if you don't let him know your areas of need, he can't meet them.
If you truly are having feelings of suicide, then you need to seek help from both your father, and a mental help professional. As you get older, you will learn that other people's opinions don't make an ounce of difference to the person that you are. It is difficult to go through, but in the long run, you classmates in middle and high school really don't matter. No one later on in life will actually care what they thought of you, and you shouldn't either. Continue to be yourself and work on your esteem so you won't value their opinions so much.
southamerica
Jul 1, 2011, 09:10 AM
My dad really, really loves me, and always has. But.. when I was a teenager we had a really big falling out. My mom was in the picture, and I even fell out with her a little bit. It was four years of total isolation from my family-and mostly because teens tend to go crazy (literally-the hormone levels found in a teenager's body make them certifiably crazy) and parents don't always know what to do with that.
If you feel lost and alone, tell your dad you feel lost and alone and you are worried he doesn't love you. I am with everyone else here in betting that he doesn't know that you need a little love right now, and if you ask him for it, he will let you know that you are indeed very important to him.
Talk to him or a school counselor about your thoughts regarding suicide... that is never a good choice.