I'm 22, my boyfriend is 23 and we've been off and on for 2 years now. He's the first guy I dated who is pretty much the same age as I am, just a couple months older. I usually date older guys who are a bit more mature but I really care for this guy, in many ways, he USED to be my best friend. When we first began dating our sex drives were on the same level, doing it many times a day in many different ways so we like to experiment. The last time we were in a relationship I noticed the lack of sex after a few weeks. He claimed he was too tired or not in the mood. I was working many hard hours yet I still wanted to have sex often and had the energy for it.

Whatever sex life we had was not cutting it for me. We would hardly have sex and when we did it was random and routine. Not only that but it wouldn't last long, we did very few positions and he just wanted to hurry to finish. We never got to do any of the fun sexy things I had planned, things that I thought would reignite a spark if it was needed. So we had broken up and two months later we are back in eachothers lives cause he "realized" how much he loved and kissed me, yet I do t see any changes, especially with the sex life. Now he hardly finishes, hell stop in the middle of it, still be hard and won't let me take over. He hardly let's me have my way also. I'm so frustrated and angry, yet he claims he cares for me and likes me being in his bed, is there something up with him or do I just walk away?

You can be compatible in a relationship and not be compatible sexually. Which sounds like what is happening here. Your libidos aren't matched up.

I don't think this is doing anything healthy for you nor is there any indication that he is going to change. He might be willing and he might say he is willing but it has been seen that he isn't.

Might be a good time to get out of there now and save yourself some pain and heartache. It is going to hurt.

Good luck.