She was on her face book and I asked to see her messages and found out she was talking to her ex for over a month. She said how she moved on and I'm a great guy but she said she miss him and called him by his nick name.she gave him her phone number and said hit her up. She swears she hates him and just did it to tell him about us and wish him best of luck in his life. And she said she can't wait for him to move back to the town we live in.

Go wit the flow on this one. Don't try to keep tabs on her, but know that she is contacting him. I think it's a little odd that she said she "missed" him but followed it with "she doesn't want to have anything to do with him" and then proceeded to give him her phone number.

Make it clear that it makes you uncomfortable. How old are the two of you by the way? How long have you been together.

--Facebook has been noted for A LOT of breakups due to similar things, try not to let it effect yours. If you suspect she is being shady and doing something behind your back, I would end this relationship. If you can't trust her, there is no reason to continue.

She said it was irrational thinking and I'm 21 she's 19 we been trying to work on it and she deleted her Facebook she said she realized how bad she hurt me and will never do it again. We been together for 5 months. I really want it to work but I run what she said through my head over and over

Can I ask you why you felt the need to check her messages on Facebook? Is that something you normally do in a relationship? Do you check her phone too? Seems like either you have some trust issues or you are a tad controlling.

So she sent her ex a message, what's the big deal? I just don't see how this is turning into a worrisome issue.

She deleted her Facebook, that's good, she did her part. Now do yours, and forget about it. Don't make this an issue to argue about, or an issue that drives you crazy, just be cool, and pay attention.

And stop looking for trouble because if she wanted to hide something she wouldn't have let you see the darn Facebook in the first place. Let it go, and have some fun.