So, we've been going out for about 9 months now.. Sexually active for about 4... And while the sex has been amazing, I've never been able to make her orgasm.
Like.. This is all through Foreplay too. I've fingered her... A fair few times, for quite long periods (15 minutes+ generally) and I've done oral every time before we've had sex. (I generally go down on her for anywhere between 30 minutes and an hour... Once I actually went down on her for almost 2 hours... And NOTHING D:) and I really need to know why I can't make her orgasm? I've been trying for months.. And I've even tried NOT trying, and just enjoying myself >.<
She tells me that it's fine, that she doesn't really mind... But I mind :c it really hits me hard when she can make me come whenever she wants, but I can't do the same for her. I live the girl a ton, and I only want her to experience the same type of ecstasy she's made me feel.

Also, I feel it's important to mention she HAS had an orgasm by herself before... However, she can only do it with her shower head. She essentially takes the head off, so it's just a tube... Places it to her clitoris and then adjusts it for 15 - 20 minutes. She can't do it by herself, never has. She discovered how to do it with the hose at a young age.. And no matter how much she touches herself, she can't make herself orgasm either.
What.. Do I do? :( I've tried weaning her off the hose, getting her used to pleasuring herself... Getting used to me pleasuring her. That doesn't seem to work either.. She's starting to actually believe nothing can make her come except the hose. I want to prove her wrong.. I want her to experience the same thing I have.
Any suggestions?

We will be glad to help but are required to ask your age before we can discuss adult issues.

Post edited to say what it should have said and I know the poster intended to say

Age could be a factor,

But we have to know it before we say anything.

I would like to advise you not to "go down" on your girlfriend for long periods of time as you are just increasing your chances of getting sexually transmitted diseases.


What? All it takes is exposure. There is no time clock on STD - for example, having intercourse for 5 minutes is not more dangerous than having intercourse for 2 minutes.

And, AS HAS BEEN SAID, inappropriate to answer this without knowing the age of the OP.

martinizing2 does not find this helpful : where did you get this information? A persons history and current activity play a role as do many other factors. We still the age before we answer


Too bad I can't greenie a reddie.

Age before answer. And I believe I DO have the answer :) so please tell us how old you are :)

Please give her & your age...
Also is your organ smaller in size than it should be. Also she may have some sexual disorder.

Please give her & your age...
Also is your organ smaller in size than it should be. Also she may have some sexual disorder.


And what size "should" it be - ?

Okay, CLOSED, since you can't stop responding and we still don't have an age.