So, I've been seeing someone for about 3 weeks.. We talk literally everyday, throughout the day, but he is always saying how busy he is when it's time to hang out (unless I drive down to see him.. then he's free). He told me 3 dates in he could see himself falling in love with me, which I thought was crazy, but gave him the benefit of the doubt and stuck with it.. not going to lie, I liked the attention.

We've been arguing all week about miscommunications with regards to seeing each other and it's really killing things for me. He says he likes me so much/wants to meet my parents, but it seems so difficult for him to come see me. I told him I believe a man should "court" a woman in the initial stages, and that I wouldn't be making the effort to go to see him until I see him making the effort, too.

He has a job that requires him to work on the weekends, and I'm finding logistically it may not work, but he keeps telling me it will. So confused and not sure if he's worth it... He makes me feel like I should be working with his schedule more, but I feel it's too soon for that.. we just started dating!

I like him, but told him I can't talk to him all the time if he can't see me. It's too confusing and makes me upset to think someone I'm becoming so close to can't show me they care. Am I being unreasonable?

Well, lets see. You could continue this relationship for another 3 months and continue to excerise your means of transportation for visitation rights...

Or

You tell him when he's ready to make time for you.. he can flex his transportation means to come visit you.

Till then I'd say it was a nice exercise and the car needed a work out but... 'I just am far to busy'.

Well, I only visited him once. Technically, he only came to me once, too. The other times we sort of met out.. locally by me. But, I just felt like he was trying to get me to always drive down to him without showing face/going out on dates.

Then rather than over analysing the situation just go with the flow.

Date casually with no commitments or expectations and see what happens.


It's too confusing and makes me upset to think someone I'm becoming so close to can't show me they care. Am I being unreasonable?


It's been only 3 weeks...

Three weeks of dating does not a relationship make...

You barely know the guy,slow down and allow yourself to either enjoy the times you do meet up,or realise that he's not what you want.

Too much,too soon=crash and burn.

I agree with you 100%, but don't know why you don't listen to YOURSELF!!

That's really all you have to do, is do what you said you would do!


I told him I believe a man should "court" a woman in the initial stages, and that I wouldn't be making the effort to go to see him until I see him making the effort, too...

He makes me feel like I should be working with his schedule more, but I feel it's too soon for that.. we just started dating!

I like him, but told him I can't talk to him all the time if he can't see me.

You have said what you mean, now mean what you say!!

If you are not even sure if he is worth it then why are you allowing this to affect you in such a tremendous way? End the relationship and tell him to phone you when he is ready to bring something to the table. Be careful, because it sounds like he is looking for a booty call, "Come to my house and fall in love with me, while I just tell you what to do and make you feel like you are in a relationship".

Good Luck,
Javi

Thanks everyone. I did end it last night into today. He begged for me to give him another chance, but I feel like I've given him plenty of chances, he just didn't take them. He told me I was being immature and that I should seek professional help.. I told him I meant what I was saying and that I wasn't crazy for feeling that way, I guess he was just mad...