My Finance (Ex now) is a meth user. I have recently broke of the engagement, relationship as a whole and had him leave our apartment. He has no one else in his life that cares, not friends (since he secluded himself with meth use) not even family (expremely disfunctional and his two brothers are also heavy users) I am scared for him, he is shooting it up with needles and has been for some time. But since I ended it, he is going in a downward spiral even more so. Here's a little history: He was using when I met him but I was so innocent and never exposed to anyone who used hard core drugs so I didn't pick up on it right away. He didn't care about appearance when we met, after he moved in with me, I noticed a drawer in a nightstand thing on our lanai screwed shut... so I got the drill gun and opened it, in there was tons of pages from porn magazines, male and female.. needles, baggies, straws etc. I confronted him and his excuse was it was his brothers stuff mixed in with his stuff when he moved... and I believed it! From then on.. more signs.. most classic... can't sleep, always busy taking stuff apart that wasn't even broken, super paranoid (accusing me of cheating etc), Money missing, nice things of mine missing, weird sex desires, sunken in face and dry mouth, porn porn and more porn, sleeping for days after staying awake for days, staying up all night cleaning and taking apart electronic equipment, extreme moodiness and irritability. I soon confronted him, and he admitted in about a year and a half into the relationship. I still believed he just "messed" up, and really wasn't addicted, and would stop eventually. I would threaten him etc. I tried every approach, threats, love, box tests to prove my instincts were correct etc etc. Almost 4 years later and an engagement later, I have now seen the light and realize how stupid I have been all these years. I realized I can not make him change, and I have to look out for myself.. im tired of the fights, of him losing jobs, of finding bloody surenges in places and porn stuff all around, tired of my stuff being ruined, tired of stuff going missing (that he obviously traded or sold for meth), tired of the lies, and just plain tired! It is exhausting living with a meth addict, and every time they shoot up you lose a piece of yourself with their actions. I became depressed, and to embaressed to talk to anyone, like I did something wrong. Anyway, its over, and I made him move out... it wasn't easy getting him out, but I did it... now that he's out... he would be homeless if it weren't for me letting him stay in a house I have already vacated that is being foreclosed on (the bank just hasn't taken possession yet). The plan was he was supposed to stay there (theres no electric there - long story) and save money for a few weeks then rent a room and get his life together. Anyway, I know he's not saving money and he is spending it all on meth. He is on a huge meth binge because I am no longer their to play mother and watch after him. I have a key to the place and went into it when he wasn't home (at work), and found the place trashed with pages ripped out of porn magazines.. you can't walk in any room without stepping on a page from a porn magazine. I am afraid he is going to OD by shooting up, or commit suicide.
My question is... how likely is this? I was the only person he had that stuck by his side, now that he ruined that, would meth mess with his brain so much to where suicide would be a real thing to worry about? I want to get him help... his medical insurance would pay for a rehab, I've texted him asking him to go, and I just get ignored. Any advise from someone that used this drug like this, or someone who's been in my shoes?
Ive already been tested for HIV (neg)... is their anything else I should worry about. This has been a part of his life for years now. Hes 41. Hes also a heavy vodka drinker.

Turn him in... he's not going to stop on his own. If he gets arrested and cut off from the drugs and booze... MAYBE he will get treatment or get in the mindset to accept treatment.

To build off what smoothy said, addicts are in a mindset where they feel they need their drug. Help will be on their terms and their terms only.

Putting him in a situation where is no longer has access to meth, will hopefully clear his mind enough to realize he needs change. Have you talked to him about getting help? What is his response?

Hi fleebird I can only add to what everyone else has said from my own personal experience. Unfortunately addicts and alcoholics have to "hit bottom". My child is an IV addict, has been in jail, hospitals etc over the course of the last 2 years and still continues to use. I also had him incarcerated just to save his life and none of the above has worked. They also listen to what you do not to what you say so threats don't work. If you want to save his life turn him in and from there it is up to him whether he wants recovery and a better live. We can't make them use and we can't make them get sober. You need to take care of you. I would go make an appointment for a physical and talk to your doctor about what you are worried about and see what else she suggests. Good Luck

One last comment fleebird, having a methamphetamine addict in your house or any property you may own is extremely dangerous - the cooking of meth is highly volatile and could potentially cause an explosion not only damaging physical dwelling, but people could be severely injured, maimed or killed as well.

One last comment fleebird, having a methamphetamine addict in your house or any property you may own is extremely dangerous - the cooking of meth is highly volatile and could potentially cause an explosion not only damaging physical dwelling, but people could be severly injured, maimed or killed as well.

There is also the highly toxic by-products that contaminate the general area as well. As you say, the risk can be quite extensive.

Hi fleebird,

I just joined this forum the other night after using again and had a bad experience, I had been clean for almost a year, and things were going great, I honestly can't tell why I pick up the drug again after all that time and the years I lost and health issues that aspired due to my use of meth.
I just posted my story in the questions section of my profile the other night in hopes that it would help other users come to terms and seek help as I did... and perhaps he should read the story if after reading it yourself you feel I would help. If he or you has any questions about beginning the road to recovery my email is at the end of the story.
I want to say being a former user and injecting that you are a very strong person and you are amazing to still care for him, and here you are asking for help for him. You were right to separate yourself and protect yourself that's the number one thing to do. Now you can seek options to help him.
I want you to know form my personal experience of my friends and my doctor giving my the knowledge of how to help myself, that you can only give him the knowledge that you will learn and you have to realize that only he can take the next step to use that knowledge. Please don't hold the burden on yourself if he chooses not to change.
I wish you my sincere thoughts for your happiness in your new life ahead, because you deserve to be happy and for your loved one to get better.

Hi, my Boyfrind who is also my little precious girl's dad just started using again after being clean for almost 2 years, I'm so depressed because I don't know what to do his hole mood changed and he seems not to have any feelings towards me or the baby, the good thing is that he is out of the house but he steel comes on the week ends and some times during the week, he gets very nasty with me and it seems like he hates me but at the same time he keeps coming back, I don't know what to do for him or how to help him I think I need help myself because this is very overwhelming for me please advice it would really help me and mi child, thak you.