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nturner1749
May 4, 2011, 09:25 AM
Me and my fiancé are wanting to have a kid now and we have tried so many times but have an irregular period so I got put on the depo shot and I was wondering when could I get pregnant and how long would it take me?

smoothy
May 4, 2011, 09:45 AM
What's your Gynocologist say...

They can give you a better answer than someone on the internet can.

They have seen you, know your medical history and issues you really don't want to reveal online.

nturner1749
May 4, 2011, 09:49 AM
Well they said stay on the depo shot but I want a kid but I've always had irregular periods cause I'm an athlete.. so I don't know what to do

southamerica
May 4, 2011, 09:59 AM
Do they know that you want to conceive?

Staying on birth control will not help you to get pregnant and I would be surprised if a doctor told you to stay on BC if they knew you were trying to conceive.

nturner1749
May 4, 2011, 10:06 AM
No they don't know.. cause my mom would flip, but we tried before in was on because and I had irregular periods.. im just afraid that I can't get pregnant

southamerica
May 4, 2011, 10:07 AM
Okay I need more clarification:

How old are you and your fiancé?
Are you still under your mom's supervision?
Are you wanting to get pregnant right now or in the future?

nturner1749
May 4, 2011, 10:10 AM
I'm 18 and he is 18 and for now I am under her supervision but I'm moving out and I'm going to college and everything and I want to get pregnant now. I've been on these site before and asked questions and I've been judged every single time and I just want answers. Sorry I didn't tell you I just don't want to be judged

southamerica
May 4, 2011, 10:22 AM
No worries, I'm not here to judge you. Just trying to help and I need information to do so.

Here's your current issue: if your mother is still your guardian and makes the final decisions in your life, there isn't much you can do until you move up and become an adult so to speak.

Where do you live? At 18, you should be old enough to make your own decisions as far as whether you're on birth control. You should be able to go to the doctor and ask to be taken off birth control without your mother's permission. What that does to your relationship with her is a different story. So consider that.

Now, I'm going to give you some advice that you can take or leave-it's just an opinion. At 18, and about to enter college, you may not be as ready for a child as you think. Same with your fiancé. I know you both think you're mature and ready to take on these challenges-but you yourself haven't even lived alone yet. It's a big adjustment to make in itself, add college to the mix, and then the fact that your fiancé and you will soon be merging lives. All in all, it's going to be a big shock to your system and way of living.

Having a baby and raising it is a HUGE responsibility. It will take over everything you do. It will effect school, work, social life, your relationship, your body, and your emotions. Every single day and every single night, you will be responsible for that human's well-being and all of its financial, emotional, and physical needs.

You haven't even learned how to take care of yourself yet. Add a baby to that-you're in for a lot of work. Really, you should be focusing on college and being young.

All of that being said, I'm assuming that where you live, you're an adult. You can make all of your own decisions and do what you want regardless of what I or your mom or anyone else says. I just urge you to consider your youth and college years as a gift that should be taken to the fullest BEFORE starting a family. There's a time for everything.

You could pick up some babysitting jobs in the meantime!

nturner1749
May 4, 2011, 10:30 AM
Well thanks ill take all that into consideration. Thanks so much for your help

southamerica
May 4, 2011, 10:34 AM
You're welcome. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you get what you want out of life.

DoulaLC
May 4, 2011, 01:31 PM
If you are on the depo shot, it is unlikely that you would become pregnant as it is designed to prevent pregnancy. It is unusual that your doctor would suggest such a course of treatment to regulate your menstrual cycle.

Your cycles could be irregular just due to your age. You also mentioned that you are an athlete... how strenuous is your training? Sometimes that could be the cause.

An irregular cycle does not necessarily mean that you can not get pregnant, plenty of women do. However, it may take a bit longer as it can depend on the reason for the irregularity.

Do give a good deal of consideration to what having, and raising, a child would entail as southamerica said. The financial obligations are enormous, let alone everything else that is involved.