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liligig
May 2, 2011, 09:40 AM
We have been together for almost 6 months, everything is great we love each other very bad and we have been honest in everything.. we call each other from time to time but we have never met, we have exchanged many pictures and videos"he never sent me a video of him"he also sent me a gift that hasn't arrived yet "that would be my fault because i gave him extra info about the address that could be misleading".. I once mentioned a video call and he said no for some reason.. and I believed him... a week ago he asked me if I still want to see him on skype and I absulutly agreed... so yesterday we were suppose to make that call but somehting came up and I had to go for some time and when I got back he wasn't there , I waited for a long time but he didn't come back and I had to go sleep.. but before I sent him an email... and he answered... today has been the same and I feel that he is ignoring me and the video call thing... I can't stop worrying about that

amicon
May 2, 2011, 09:48 AM
Do you smell a rat?

I do.

You don't know this person,you have never met this person-he could be the guy you think he is,but then again,he might be a married man with kids.

I always think the best option is to,date and get together with someone you you actually meet in real life.

talaniman
May 2, 2011, 10:05 AM
You have been together 6 months with a guy you never met, and never seen?? Tell me how that happens? How old are you both??

You think he may be hiding something from you??

I DO!!

Can you trust him??

I SURELY WOULD NOT!! You better protect your heart!! All I see are big red flags waving all over the place, and you ignoring them!!

sharper11
May 2, 2011, 12:47 PM
This is going to sound mean:

You have a fun penpal, that's it. Maybe you both have labeled yourself BF/GF, but a relationship consist of other things other than sending vids and messages to each other.

How old are the both of you? In my opinion, re-label yourself friends and save yourself the pain of waiting for a reply.

BMI
May 2, 2011, 01:00 PM
Reiterating the above. It is best to not get too involved over these internet relationships. From the sounds of it, you've already let this get inside your head and are treating it with way too much importance. It's almost like a pretend relationship and most certianly is always a gigantic waste of time.

mmresd
May 4, 2011, 07:57 AM
This situation smells very fishy. If this is how he normally acts then he is pretty weird, and if it is not, then he is hiding something. Long distance relationships (LDR) are hard enough and are only practiced under two circumstances. One of them is that the relationship is very close, long term, and you have to know each other. The second one is that there is a set deadline of hen the distance will stop. Why torture yourself with a relationship like that if you don't even know the other person? Go out and meet people around you, so that you are at least sure that they actually look like the pictures they might give you.

Good luck,
Javi