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scared_confused102
Jan 25, 2007, 11:40 AM
My boyfriend wants to have sex but I'm scared,there is times when I feel like doing it,but when it all comes down to it I get scared!I'm very self conscious! What should I do?:( :confused:
Tuscany
Jan 25, 2007, 11:58 AM
If you are scared then you are not ready. That is nothing to be ashamed of. Wait until you are ready. And talk to your boyfriend about this. If he is the one for you he will wait.
littleone01
Jan 26, 2007, 07:45 AM
Hi there sweetie!
Bottom line.. and Im sure this is not what you want to hear... but I don't think your ready..
Listen Ive been there and I know how you feel. When I was a teenager, I was somewhat overweight and very self conscious!! I was pretty and guys still liked me, so I guess I was fortunate, but I still had those pressures to have sex.. I was always worried, would I be good, would he like it, would he dump me after.. and well those questions got me to realize, I wasent ready..
In the end, Im glad I waited... after graduation, I met this really good guy, we fell in love and it was well worth it.. He accepted me for who I was and for what I looked like! Our love motivated me to hit the gym and now Im 20 lbs lighter!!
So sweetie.. if you worried about this issue, I think you should wait -xxx-
Keep me updated -xx-
nquiet123
Jan 26, 2007, 11:33 AM
If you feel nervous, scared, or anything that makes you feel negative about having sex, then its your subconscious trying to tell you your just not ready yet. You should only have sex when you fell 100% ready and comfertable with the person and the idea. Do be in to big of a rush to have sex, because its not worth it if its not special for you.