Is a closure letter important even if it had been almost 40 years? I wanted to write one to a boyfriend whom we didn't have a formal break-up. We only separated because of distance. We wrote letters but eventually it stopped. Both of us are married now and we once met after how many years but we didn't talk about it. I am a widow now. I want to write a closure and end it up formally. I want to burn the bridges. I am afraid that there's a tendency for it to be revived In the near future . I want to have peace of mind that's why I'm having a closure. Can anyone help me make one to put the right words to it?

Your story sounds very familiar to this one that you might want to peruse the answers to.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/emotional-wellbeing/a-573318.html

Closure is acceptance, so deal with what happens, and not with what has happened so long ago.

What are you really avoiding??

Write a letter if you must, and burn it! Why open a can of worms that have been long dead, and buried??

Panglao, what do you and hael10861 have in common? Would you happen to be the same person? Your questions are almost identical.

If you were to write a letter, only you would know what to put it. But I would recommend not to because after so many years what is the point in disturbing an ex's piece, keep it to yourself, you have gone years with it already, why change it now?

Good luck,
Javi

Panglao,


Is a closure letter important even if it had been almost 40 years? I wanted to write one to a boyfriend whom we didn't have a formal break-up. We only separated because of distance. We wrote letters but eventually it stopped. Both of us are married now and we once met after how many years but we didn't talk about it. I am a widow now. I want to write a closure and end it up formally. I want to burn the bridges. I am afraid that there's a tendency for it to be revived In the near future . I want to have peace of mind that's why I'm having a closure. Can anyone help me make one to put the right words to it?


Hael10861
I want to write a closure letter to my high school boyfriend. We are both married and in our early 50's. But now that I'm a widow I am having a relationship with a former classmate too who knew about him and wanted me to write a closure letter. Actually , what happened to this high school boyfriend is that we really didn't broke up but we were just separated with distance. There was writing letters but it all just died a natural death... no communication anymore but no closure. We saw each other after 30 years but there was no mention about our relationship? Should I assume that he considered it closed? For me it is but would it be for him? Should I write a closure letter? Wouldn't he be shocked to hear about this after how many years? Please help me write one, I don't know how to start and what to say. I want to write a closure letter that would be just simple.

Until we get an answer to J_9's question, why don't we close them both. They are eerily similar.