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porto2009
Apr 29, 2011, 10:03 AM
I had a fight with my girlfriend, she said she wanted to talk to me but now she's ignoring me, what should I do??

talaniman
Apr 29, 2011, 10:38 AM
Leave her alone so she can cool off.

porto2009
Apr 29, 2011, 11:03 AM
But what I told her was really bad . She was distant and acting very strangly so I told her if she wasn't happy with me she should break up and stop acting like that and that's the motif of the fight. I haven't been with her for almost 2 weeks because she was one week away on vacations but we talked but the last two days she has been ignoring me

talaniman
Apr 29, 2011, 11:38 AM
Doesn't matter why she is mad, she is, and is ignoring you, let her cool off, and when and IF she is ready to talk, then talk.

Have you tried apologizing for being a boob, and threatening to dump her? Yes threatening a break up is being a boob.

porto2009
Apr 29, 2011, 11:41 AM
Yes I have apologized and that I understood why she was mad at me but she kept telling me that she wasn't angry at me.
Thanks for the advices :))

talaniman
Apr 29, 2011, 11:44 AM
I leave a person like that alone and go about my own business. Its enough to be ignored, worse to be ignored for no reason. Or one you cannot understand. Like I said, when she wants to talk she will.

Until then it seems you are on your own. No telling how long she will let you stew in your own juice though.

Sorry guy!

I wish
Apr 29, 2011, 12:49 PM
How old are you guys?

For now, time will tell when she's ready to come out of hiding and let you know what she's thinking.

porto2009
Apr 29, 2011, 04:28 PM
I'm 17 and she's 16

porto2009
Apr 30, 2011, 03:30 AM
She texted me and she broke up. She said it is better this way because she has no time anymore and she doesn't feel the same way anymore about me. She also said it was not my fault and that is not worth anymore and she says sorry. But I know that's true and that it was my fault. What should I do?? :(

amicon
Apr 30, 2011, 04:14 AM
You accept that she broke up with you.

Her feelings have changed and you should start the healing process by having no more contact with her.

Sorry,breakups suck but you will get over her,trust me.

talaniman
Apr 30, 2011, 05:09 AM
There is nothing left to do but bow out gracefully, so you keep your dignity, and self respect, reflect on your mistakes, and do better next time.

Break ups suck for everybody, but it happens often. Just do your own thing without her, and enjoy it, and let her do her thing. It will be hard at first, but it will get better.

porto2009
Apr 30, 2011, 06:40 AM
Is there anything that I can do to win her back??
Thanks for the advices everybody

I wish
Apr 30, 2011, 06:45 AM
Our first instinct is to try to save the relationship, so you can let her know how you feel about her, but even if you do let her know how you feel, it sounds like she's already made her decision. It's not easy, but at some point you're going to have to accept her wishes and let her go.

talaniman
Apr 30, 2011, 07:05 AM
For now, forget it. Accept it, and leave her alone. No one can predict the future, or how peoples feelings will change, but its up to her, NOT you, to miss you and want YOU back, and tell you that's what she wants.

Don't hold your breath waiting, or trying tricks designed to change her mind. That makes drama and hard feelings and ruins any good thoughts they had of you.

Do your thing and let her do hers. The world is a lot bigger than her, and I highly suggest you explore it. That's the adjustment to your thinking you have to make and the longer you put it off, the harder it will be.