I lied to my boyfriend because he is too possestive.. we have been with him for a year and a half now. When the relationship is good, its really good that's when I do exactly what he says, the way his says it with out ever dissapointing him.. but if I do a mistake e.g.. Leave half an hour of not texting him bak then he will think wrongly. He has to look at my mobile every day and I'm not allowed to have Facebook nor msn. My friends I can only meet them a few times a week and that's females only and obviously I will have to go to a decent place and only during weekdays and during the day. I had to change my mobile number because too many guys had it. In the past when a guy msged me just to tell me thank you for doing him a favour, he flipped out and called him and started swearing at him.. I lost a lot of friends because of him. The way he dealt with situations I didn't like the whole scene he would make and he would actually call up the people or message them from my mobile and swear so due to this yesturday I lied to him. This guy called me up by mistake as he was suppose to call another person with my name. I didn't tell him anythng and when he asked he who the number was siince he checks my mobile every day, I said it was my girlfriend. He didn't believe so he msged from my mobile and found out. He broke up with me because of this. I know its not right to lie but I just got too sceard and wanted to avoid hassles. I don't know now if I'm the crazy one or not and I don't kn ow what to do?

Are you prepared to give up the only friends you have left and spend your life in this prison of a relationship, are you prepared to only have him as company for the rest of your life? This is what will happen if you stay with him. He is half way there at ruining your life! I'm surprised he hasn't hit you yet! Chances are, he WILL...

My advice? Let him end it with you, don't try and get him back, don't get back with him even if he gets on the ground and begs you too! This is a toxic, dangerous relationship! And you NEED to get out of it now

Jealousy, especially extreme jealousy like he is showing is a danger sign in any relationship. He wants to completely control someone and make you a possession, nothing more. You should not have to show him your phone because that is an invasion of your privacy. Does he let you go through his texts and control who he hangs out with? This is a one sided relationship and he gets some sort of pleasure by knowing you will only be happy in the relationship when you do exactly what he says.

Since he has ended it, run away! Stay far away from him, as Adviceishere said, this is a toxic relationship. He is no good for you and will only ruin your life. He definitely sounds like someone who is not above beating his significant other and you don't want to be that person.

The fact that you feel the need to lie to him and the fact that you find him possessive is already enough reason to break up.

If you two can't find a way to work things out, it's better not to drag things out and go your separate ways.

Nic, somewhere along the way you got the wrong idea of how a healthy relationship is supposed to be. I don't know if he is your first boyfriend or if he did what many abusers do and started controlling little things, but this is not a healthy relationship.

While it is wrong to lie, it is also wrong to control another person. He doesn't respect you. He is not showing love. He is not being supportive. He is not being a partner or a boyfriend.

Do you have family and friends who will help you stay away from this person? Anyone who can help support you emotionally while you heal?

You have an out from the relationship... take it!

Do not contact him, do not answer any attempt he makes to contact you as it will be too easy to fall back into it. You would then be right back where you were... in a relationship with a controlling man who watches your every move, who checks up on you on a daily basis, who doesn't trust you, and who does not respect you or your privacy. That is not love... that is not even friendship!

What would you say to your best friend if she was in the same situation?

Count your blessings... he has set you free so that someday you can find someone who truly does care for you the way that they should.