View Full Version : Got married but not in love
Lusty89
Apr 15, 2011, 09:29 AM
Well I recently got married on Feb.. But we have a 6 year old son me and him been on and off we weren't living together for almost 3years and just last year got back together we decided to get married but I didn't love him and yet I went on and got married. Its been really hard I am not happy sometimes when I'm alone I cry cause I want out of this marriage but yet I don't leave because of my son I want him to be happy.. I don't really have sex with him theirs no connection every time he wants to have sex I make excuses not to be with him. And when we do I feel like I'm being rape I cry but he doesn't see me.. I get disgusted by he touching me.. Sometimes I wonder is their really my true love out their I wish there is because I need him so much... Wht can I do how do I get out of this marriage I'm only 21...
talaniman
Apr 15, 2011, 10:01 AM
Not trying to be harsh, but your lack of honesty is biting you in the butt. Your lack of honesty with yourself has left you without direction. Leave why don't you!!
Take some responsibility for yourself as you have done the last 6 years willingly haven't you?
If you are unhappy with your choices, make changes, AND BETTER CHOICES FOR YOURSELF.
Start by being honest! With yourself, and your choice of a mate.
sharper11
Apr 15, 2011, 10:12 AM
It's time to stop playing the victim and move on. You put yourself in this situation, and now it's time to get out.
If you are not in love, you need to tell your partner that. You should not have to suffer through life when a few lifestyle changes can make them all better.
--Of course, and you know this, stay in your sons life. You being happier may make the situation better.
.. . Good luck, I am sorry you feel "stuck" in your marriage. Start making moves to change that.
ajwain
Apr 17, 2011, 12:33 AM
You are stuck up willingly in this situation!firstly you have made some wrong decisions in the past for which you have to take responsibility.whenever you cry rewind and think why you had taken that decision of marrying.. may be that will give you the strength to fulfill d marriage and motherhood! Just try to improve your relation with your husband not only for yourself but also for your child.. I feel that you want to run away from your problems rather than facing them.. I know its very hard.but sometimes in life you have to adjust not for others but for your own sake so that you get peace from that suffering.. and practically speaking if your image of TRUE LOVE never gets fulfilled after leaving your husband then what will you do?life alone is also full of challenges isn't it? if you are that courageous then last option is you leave him.but make a choice soon.. all d best!