I have not had sex with my wife in a 2 weeks but when we did it didn't feel very tight when I entered her... other times it took a few seconds for her to adjust.. this isn't the first time I have noticed this and a little while ago she started wanting to try positions that she never really wanted to try before.. should I be worried?

How old are you both?

I don't know, maybe you need to ask her.

40 been married 16 years

Well, honey... tightness has very little to do with how often you have sex, or whether you've had sex recently.

New positions are ALSO not indicative of cheating--maybe she just found a couple of great books!

You should TALK to your wife, not look for evidence where there might be none. And please--don't start the conversation with "are you cheating on me?" because all that's going to do is force your marriage into counseling.

Do you trust your wife?

I'm always surprised that people live together, have sex, can't talk to each other.

Ask her.

A woman libido comes and goes, its possible she was just wetter then usual or even masterbating before hand to get it started. Its also possible she's trying to spice it up with different things because she loves you. Never accuse a woman, it could go very wrong. The moment you lose faith in your partner it could be a very slippery slope downhill. Set up a nice dinner, pour some wine and ask her what's on her mind but don't let her know your doubting her, ask her sweetly if there's anything else she would like to try. Don't assume cheating is the reason for lack of tightness because it could be a lot of reasons for it. You should be grateful your wife still wants sex, some women can go months without it. My opinion is if she was cheating she wouldn't bother to even please you.

a woman libido comes and goes, its possible she was just wetter then usual or even masterbating before hand to get it started. its also possible shes trying to spice it up with different things because she loves you. never accuse a woman, it could go very wrong. the moment you lose faith in your partner it could be a very slippery slope downhill. set up a nice dinner, pour some wine and ask her whats on her mind but dont let her know your doubting her, ask her sweetly if theres anything else she would like to try. dont assume cheating is the reason for lack of tightness because it could be a lot of reasons for it. you should be greatful your wife still wants sex, some women can go months without it. my opinion is if she was cheating she wouldnt bother to even please you.


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I think you should just go with the flow and if something gets out of hand talk to her about it!❕