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lolo1978
Apr 13, 2011, 08:16 PM
My boyfriend and I have been together going on a year. He has only gotten me off twice. I get myself off within seconds. And I have had this problem way before him. So I know it's not him. Also I am always horny. From the time I wake up to the time I go to bed and it really does suck. It's getting to be over welming to him and me both. I just don't know what to do. And I don't want to tell him because I don't want him to feel like less of a man. I love him more then I have ever loved any man. He turns me on with one look. He can just lay his hand on my leg in the car and I get so turned on I can stand myself. And now that he feels pressured we aren't having sex and I can't sleep in the same bed as him because he turns me on so much. I would never think that was a bad thing. But I guess it is. What do I do to fix this. I need to get back to sleeping in the same bed as him. He says I turn him on very much and he has never been more satisfied in his life. He has never been with some one so open with sex. And so good at it.

J_9
Apr 13, 2011, 08:47 PM
How old are you?

lolo1978
Apr 14, 2011, 10:11 AM
32

JudyKayTee
Apr 14, 2011, 10:51 AM
You're having sex with him. You should be able to talk to him.

Tell him what you like, how you like it, where/when/how. Teach him if you have to. Show him if you have to. He's not a mindreader.

Otherwise I find this post ludicrous. He turns you on so much that you can't share a bed with him?

If you're open and "good at it" you should also be good at talking to your partners if you are NOT being satisfied.

That's what adults do.

QLP
Apr 14, 2011, 02:25 PM
If your sex drive is so high that it is causing you such problems you really ought to get a medical check-up.

Anything from a hormonal imbalance to sexual addiction could be at play.

Rarely, people suffer from Persistent genital arousal disorder, which can be very distressing. However, this normally doesn't require the presence of a stimulus such as looking at your partner to occur. This is more continuous physical arousal rather than desire.

Did you have this problem when you had sex everyday? If not, it may be more psychological than physical, in so much as you are craving what you don't feel you are being given freely.

Obviously you can also look at your relationship with your guy and talk about compromises, but if you really are constantly aroused I would find out why that is happening first.