My ex boyfriend of 2 years ended it about a week ago because we got in a fight and he basically said it was the last straw. It was a stupid fight but nonetheless added on top of other stress that we had been going through.
I went crazy at first calling him nonstop and texting him and he ignored me. I showed up at his house and made him talk to me about this and now we are back on civil terms and when I left I asked him if there was any chance at all. He said that I would have more of a chance if I left him alone. He said that it was over, but then told me to give him space and time to miss me because he wasn't going to miss me when I was right there. I told him not to contact me unless he wants to get back together but he was so firm that it was over, but then said that I would have a better chance if I left him alone for a while, giving him time to miss me.
THEN: last night he called me and left a message basically saying that he wasn't looking for a person to replace me and wanted me to know that he wasn't trying to find someone to take my place and he was saying how he was thinking about me every night. I didn't contact him and then he called me this morning ( again I didn't answer) then he text me asking if I got his message and I said yes, are you OK? And he said yes, I just called to make sure you got my message. We ended up talking on the phone and I made the mistake of asking about us, and he said I was pressuring him and got angry with me saying that it was over and So now I have started the No contact rule AGAIN with him. I really want him back, but I want like a month of NC so things can cool down and then just start talking to him like friends again. He is long distance so I wouldn't be seeing him. Do you think Im doing the right thing?

I think you leave him alone period, and get your own life without him in it, and be happy about it. Chasing him will do no good, and talking like normal friends won't help. It makes you seem like you are desperate for his attention. Ignore his calls, and texts and disappear from his life altogether, or he will hurt you again.

No contact isn't about getting an ex back,it's about giving yourself time and space to clear your head and get your own life back on track.

Generally speaking,you can't be friends with an ex as long as you have a hidden agenda of trying to get back with them.

Heal,get a life and move on.

He's done. Believe it. His apologies were only because of your pressure.

No, NC is for you to move on. To realize without any interruptions.

Try it. Do it. Live it. NC.

Don't be one of those people that beg. Waste of time.

And humiliating. What you had is over. Did I forget to say over?

You'll get through this. If you go NC. There's better than this.

Reading your story reminded me the old "feeling like crap" feeling that I promise to myself every single day -- I won't let it happen again... EVER.

Before my ex dumped me by vanishing into the air, I used to beg him when he said he felt like he cared less about me and he just said he didn't know what he could do about it as his feeling changed. I was so shocked. Another day he told me he wanted some time to THINK, I give him like a day or two, and then I called and he said that if I wanted him, he still be here but I need to stop being too demanding in the relationship and he further said he still wanted more time. I just said "yes yes, whatever you want, I'm so sorry, it's all my fault, please don't be angry on me." After hanging up the phone, I cried and I panicked and I scared to dead that he will break up with me. The next day I texted him "Please I ask you, don't give up on us. It's all my fault to set expectation on you." Then he replied "I DON'T WANT TO START OVER AGAIN...". I was really devastated and when I called again, he said (in a very irritating voice), "I TOLD YOU! I NEED SOMETIMES TO THINK! WHY CALLING NOW?" And then another day he said he decided to try and still be with me. But a month or two after that, he dumped me by disappearing on me, stop all contacts with me, and when I called to ask what's going on, he acted like he didn't even know me before and said lot of cruel things I can't write here. It's really hurt but it's really wake me up. And that's the last day I ever saw, contacted, or thought that this person ever exist in the world.

You think our case is similar in some aspects? You know you can do everything you want -- begging, crying, calling, texting until you get enough of feeling like crap or until he said it clear enough or loud enough so you can see by his actions and hear from his words that he no longer wants you or he might still enjoy playing game with you by giving you fault hope -- no promise, no change, but continuation of drama and uncertainty.

But I can tell you there's another smart way you can choose to do as well if you don't want to be haunted by the bad memory like me. It simply called "Walking away with dignity". Stop begging and give him what he needed. Think and consider carefully before taking any further actions, "DO YOU STILL OR REALLY WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO SAID THAT HE NEEDED A TIME TO THINK WHETHER HE SHOULD STILL BE WITH YOU AND KEEP TELLING YOU TO LEAVE HIM ALONE?" "WHO ARE YOU THEN, IN HIS OPINION?" "YOU THINK THAT THIS IS WHAT YOU DESERVE?"

You know if I can take back all those stupid things I did and said in the past, I would. Unfortunately I can't, so I took it as a life lesson. I still remember how pathetic I was and how humiliated I felt during that period that I blindly love someone too much, regardless of all his flaws, and I allowed him to do all these terrbile things to me, used and treated me poorly, instead of walking away earlier. My family loves me unconditionally, my best friends do every thing for me and appreciate me for who I am. Do these people ever have to THINK if they want to be with me? The guy who will be the one for me will do everything to be with me and will cherish the person I am, not someone who always put me down and made me cry.

I'm not going to settle for anything less anymore and I hope you will agree with me. I hope it's not so hard for you to see the fact that (what your boyfriend did) this is the behavior of a person who doesn't care about how you feel, but only how he feels. Please think about what I tell you here, I just really hate to see people having to experience what I used to go through.