Hello, I am 18 years old, so is she. We are both seniors, and prom is coming up. We are sexually active.

We have been dating for about 7 months now.
These are the problems with our relationship
1. I am going to college far away, and she is going to college near here.
2. I do many extracurricular activities, and she does none

The second one is the reason why we have been fighting a lot. We have broken up more than once before, and they always happen because of the same thing. She feels as if she's either
-holding me back
-just one of my many priorites
-just my left over time.

The thing is though, I make as much time for her as possible. I've always been a busy person, but at the end of the day, even if I go home at six due to sports, I still try and see her after dinner for a couple of hours. I see her every day at school, we share classes, and I still see her after school at least 3 out of the five weekdays. And of course, I spend my time with her during the weekends, once if not twice out of the two days.

What I figure is that, since I have distractions and she doesn't, all she can think about is how I can't be with her right now. She thinks as if Im putting other things before her... when I have no choice but to. It's been really unfair, but those are the only reasons we fight or break up about.

In the end though, its become very routine. I come home, shower, go to her house, we either have sex, or we do hw together. We also go out at least once a week.

The other routine part is that we break up.. and get back together. She's kind of crazy.. and she's extremely high maintenance and clingy.. We've tried the space thing, the break thing before, but it never worked for us.

Now I broke up with her yesterday, but I still want to be best friends. I still care so much about her, and looking from the outside, I am one of her biggest pieces of her life, since she doesn't have a very close family, and I am the only person she has. I can't completely do no contact.. It would ruin her life. I honestly don't know what to do. We hung out today, but it just ended up with her kissing me and holding me, which I am unable to push her away. But however, for once, I was able to stand my ground in telling her we can't get back together.

I don't know if I love her, because I am a teenager, and she is my first girlfriend, But I care for her an extreme amount. I think I do. But the time is wrong. I am unable to give her what she wants, which is time, and that won't happen anytime soon, because of school and all these other commitments.

Help me please! Thank you (:

You cannot be "best friends" with her or continue to be in her life. It will have to be a clean and permanent break. You are going away to college and cannot even begin to satisfy her needs now, much less in the future.

You might be surprised to know that NC will NOT ruin her life.

Gahhh... she just set me up and said things that makes it seem like it will though. I am at a loss at what to do.

This was the first time I broke up with her. I want to keep it like this, I am sure. It's just hard going about the task.
She's also a very picky girl, and has very high expectations, which are sometimes extremely unfair for me. I don't know.. I just want her to be happy everyone..

No, it is not YOUR job to make her happy. That is her job, and hers alone.

You must be a wonderful young man to want to take on so much responsibility, but being in charge of her life and feelings is NOT your job.

Do NC and stay away from her. Don't text her, call her, talk with her.

You think its bad now, wait for the summer, and when you leave for school, it will be much worse.

You broke up, leave her alone to get over it. She will.

Yeah break ups suck.

We see each other every single day..

So that makes it harder work,but stick with your decision.

She will get over it,we all do.

I only read threw this one so fast and haven't even gone threw the whole thing and already have an answer.. here is a little situation I had.. dated a guy when we were 15.. dated for 4 years (2 years was secret from our families - that's how bad things were) - ps, I'm not saying your relationship was like mine.. however. We were together for a while, we loved each other, primariy because we were each others first in so many things.. and there are different reasons as to why I'll never forget him in my life.. 1- because he was my first love, 2- I lost my virginity to him 3- because it was such a bad relationship, that it ended up in court.. now.. my point is.. with this person, you will be hurt, you will be confused, you will miss her, you will think about her, flash backs will come to mind.. I can go on and on and on.. HOWEVER.. don't let this get in the way of your life.. I'm not saying your not allowed to miss her, etc.. I'm saying, there is a huge world out there.. college you say? GREAT! You don't even understand how many amazing people you are going to meet, how many new friends you are going to make.. and other GIRLS you are going to meet.. I'm 20.. I'm still pretty damn young, and do you know what? In just one year after being with my ex boyfriend, I saw sooooo many things I never thought I'd see while still being young.. and do you know what? I've told so many people this.. "you can tell me you told me so.." something you don't want to tell people, especially your parents right? ;) lol but do you know what.. as much as you don't want to admit it (cause I still HATE admitting it) but.. they are right,lol.. all in all.. just live your life.. we are so young, I wish so bad I can go back only 3 years so I can realize that I don't need a boyfriend to be happy.. you have your friends, your family, and like I said. College, man oh man, you'll meet so many people! I really hope I helped you, and I hope you open your eyes.. the people you think are amazing people, like this situation, fine, they're a great part of your life at a young age.. but realize I said "part" of your life?. please try and think about my advice.. all the best of luck to you in everything! :)