I don't no where too start I'm 14 years of age and have just fell pregnant with a 16 year old I am NOT in a relationship with this boy and don't want too tell him about the baby in fact I don't know whether too even keep the baby I've got my GCSE's next year and I'm not sure what too do I've rang an abortion clinic but I'm still not sure,I need someone else's opinion on this. What would you do if you was in my situation?&by the way I'm 12 weeks pregnant and fount out 3 days ago.

Please tell your parents about this.

I would tell my parents but I just can't not yet anyway I want too be for sure on what I'm doing so someone please give me there opinion on what they would do?

i would tell my parents but i just can't not yet anyway i want too be for sure on what im doing so someone please give me there opinion on what they would do?
This is NOT something you can decide about on your own. You need adult help. Please tell your parents today.

It's something I'm going too have too decide my mum is having a baby herself so it just feels wrong too tell her that her 14 year old daughters having a baby as well plus she's away for 2 weeks and there's noway I'm reuining her holiday.
PLEASE just try and help me make decisions in some kind of way?

Is it legal to put new carpet over old carpet in NC?

I don't know what too do I'm so upset.
I've got really bad cramps and a discharge that's yellowish with red.
I'm alone in my house trying too decide what I've got to do and I can't think staright does anyone have any suggestions on what they would do if they were '14 and pregnant?'PLEASE any help will do.

I don't know what too do I'm so upset.
I've got really bad cramps and a discharge that's yellowish with red.
I'm alone in my house trying too decide what I've got to do and I can't think staright does anyone have any suggestions on what they would do if they were '14 and pregnant?'PLEASE' any help.advice will do.

Call your doctor and explain your situation. Don't wait call now.

Yes, go to your doctor, or a planned parenthood, and some places even have health departments that provide health care for pregnant women. Just see someone now so they can explain to you what your options are and what's next. You need to act NOW. Good luck.

Do you have a father?

Your mother left you alone at home for two weeks?

You guys on here make everything sound SO easy I guess adults know what too do though especially in situations like this.
I'm too scared too do anything I have rang a few abortion clinics up but I'm not sure whether its what I want I'm 12 weeks pregnant and I'm feeling very ill and sore.
I got pregnant with a 16 year old at a party-SLAGISH I know.
And I've had unprotected sex whilst being pregnant also with a different person-I didn't know I was pregnant at this point.
I really want too tell someone but I can't my options are really narrowed down too be alone or abortion because my mums away abroad-shes pregnant herself
&the 'babys' dad won't want anything too do with it if I tell him he's a teenage boy he wants a life with his friend getting high and having sex whenever he wants.

I'm not sure what I'm going too do now I would go too my GP but the GPS my step-cousin!&im seriously not going there because she will go staright too my mum and then I will get battered.
You see I've disappointed my mum so much I think this would push her too the limit I think she would actually dis-own me.
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Im not sure what too do now whatever discisson I makes going too be so hard,I feel like crying I've got so much pressure on me and I'm not sure what too think basically my lifes over.:L

Call your local hospital and talk to a Nurse or Doctor there. See what they have to say and how to go about your situation. Who is caring for you since your mom is gone ?

Yes I have a father I see him every two weeks-the weekends only.
There's noway I can tell him he's my dad that's just not right he won't understand and he will just take it into a massive drama and then probably not come and see me for months.
&not on my 'own' my 20 year old brother lives at mine but he's out most of the time anyway only in the day though he normally sleeps at mine every night but not that last three nights-this is why I thought I'd take a test because no one was around too annoy me or hassle me or ask what I was getting up to.
Of course I found out I was pregnant&now I'm stressing out completeley I just decided that I'm going too have too tell the baby's dad even if I do have an abortion because it might be easier with him there & him helping me decide things.
I'm not sure what too do now whether too have this baby and reuine my life and be called a slag or too just go too an abortion clinic and get this over and done with,but when I'm older I might not be able too have children which is why I'm thinking about getting 'rid' is a good or bad idea&im not sure whether I'm 100% happy with the abortion idea yet ERGH I just don't know what too do.

You guys on here make everything sound SO easy i guess adults know what too do though especially in situations like this.
Trust me, we don't take any pretense that this is easy for you. The facts are: you made a decision to have unprotected sex, and now you're pregnant. What do you do? You speak to a doctor and discuss your options and what's next. NO-dealing with a pregnancy, especially as a teen, is not easy-but you MUST make some decisions now because you made the decision to sleep with someone.

If you are worried about confidentiality, maybe we could help you better if you told us where you're located-then we can look into doctor's clinics in the area that will keep your information private. OR you can go to another doctor who your cousin doesn't work for.

I do understand what you are saying but I've been on the pill for 2 year and I'm sure I didn't miss taking any!-plus I've been having 'sex' since my 13th birthday normally when I've had sex the boys have there own potection(bring condoms)or I made sure I take my pill and he didn't use a condom this time and I know that but I'm 100% sure I didn't miss my pill.
I even took the morning after pill but ovbiously my body doesn't work with them kind of tablets seen as I fell pregnant to be honest I can't believe myself that I'm 12 weeks pregnant & iknow I have too make a decision quick because time soon flys by but the options that I do have don't seem right for me
The obortion side I'm still not sure on.
I've decided too tell the boy I slept with and see what he has too say and see if he wants this baby or if he'd rather me get rid.
I live in Nottingham if that helps.
I'm just not sure what I want.

You've mentioned you've been having unprotected sex. Now, suddenly you're on the pill and the guys are using condoms?

The pill doesn't work if you take one if you decide to have sex. You have to take them regularly and faithfully every day.

ive decided too tell the boy i slept with and see what he has too say and see if he wants this baby or if he'd rather me get rid.
You told me you've slept with guys after this one, and with unprotected sex. How do you know which guy is the father?

And even if taken every day, the pill is not 100 percent effective, and even the morning after is not 100 percent, that is for anyone , not just you. It is a matter of odds.
And how and when you take them,

Some hot lines with people that will talk to you over the phone about options you have
Option Line (http://www.optionline.org/)

Hotlines for Teens (http://www.pamf.org/teen/hotlines.html)

I had unprotected sex the one time the time I got pregnant?
&im sure I took my pill that day.
I've been on the pill for a couple of years at first just because I had a heavy period but then I went onto stronger pills for the whole pregnancy side of things.
Ovbiously I need too go threw all my packets of pills and sort out when I was taking them and when I missed them.
Iknow I missed a few in the week that I got pregnant.
And a couple the week before.
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Right now I'm not too bothered about my 'pills' I'm more bothered on the fact that I'm 14 pregnant with a 16 year old and I'm not sure what I'm doing with my life.

ive been having 'sex' since my 13th birthday normally when ive had sex the boys have there own potection.

I didn't read this whole thread, but the above leapt out at me. You've been having sex since you were 13? With multiple partners? And your surprised you got pregnant? Girl, take this as a wake up call. Whatever you decide to do your life HAS to change. Whether you decide to have the baby and try to raise it or give it up for adoption or abort it. Your life changes. You need to stop being a slut and have more respect for yourself. You need serious counseling and soon.

The party I went too was exsacclay 12 weeks and two days ago!
I am around 12 weeks pregnant.
I had sex again after the party like 6/7 days after so I'm pretty sure it would be the guy at the party wouldn't you think that as well?

im more bothered on the fact that im 14 pregnant with a 16 year old and im not sure what im doing with my life.
I'm bothered by the fact that two young teens would make a major decision like this without consulting with adults first.

No matter what you decide to do, there will be repercussions.

Did you have any plan for your life, or have you been living for the moment with no thought for the future?

And Scott Gem.
I lost my virginty on my 13th birthday yes I bet there's millions of other girls that did the same.
&im not a 'slut' because I was in a long relationship which I broke up from on a month before my 14th birthday therefore I've slept with the person I went out with the person at this party and the person I had unprotected sex with 5/6 days after the party!-ive slept with him before though.
So stop going on like I've slept with 200 guys because I Haven't.

the party i went too was exsacclay 12 weeks and two days ago!
i am around 12 weeks pregnant.
i had sex again after the party like 6/7 days after so im pretty sure it would be the guy at the party wouldnt you think that aswell?
Not necessarily.

'The Future'
You ask if I had made plans for the future and in fact I have.
I had options day at school.
And I picked my GCSE's I'm going too be taking next year and I've also decided that I'd like too go too college and too performing arts I already have a weekend job at my auntys hairdresser so I'm already earning abit of money too myself at 14.
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I did see a baby in my future but ovbiously not so early on in my life.

Yes but if I was pregnant with the person I had sex with after the party I would be 11weeks pregnant.
And I'm 12weeks and abit.
Therefore I think I'm pregnant with the person from the party.

yes but if i was pregnant with the person i had sex with after the party i would be 11weeks pregnant.
and im 12weeks and abit.
therefore i think im pregnant with the person from the party.
How do you know you're 12 weeks along?

"i think" isn't good enough.

'The Future'
You ask if I had made plans for the future and in fact I have.
I had options day at school.
And I picked my GCSE's I'm going too be taking next year and I've also decided that I'd like too go too college and too performing arts I already have a weekend job at my auntys hairdresser so I'm already earning abit of money too myself at 14.
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I did see a baby in my future but ovbiously not so early on in my life.

I know I'm 12weeks and abit gone because I took a clear blue pregnancy test these tests don't just say your pregnant they say around how far gone you are as mine said 12-13weeks.

Without any names or judgments, I am going to ask you: do you plan on going to a doctor right now? Do you plan on calling the hotlines linked here before?

You don't want to tell your parents-but what if you decide to keep the baby?

These are serious questions that you need to figure out, and now. We can tsk tsk tsk at you all we want, but you've already gotten yourself in this situation and you need to speak to a professional. There's nothing else I can tell you. Discuss your options and then YOU choose for YOURSELF.

And now you know that birth control isn't a guarantee about pregnancy. Having unprotected sex, well, that should go without saying.

I said slut and I meant slut. I don't know where you get the idea that you have to sleep with 100s of guys to qualify as a slut. A slut is someone who engages in sex for the sake of sex. And that appears to describe you.

Someone gave you medication to make your period easier. But since that medication also helps prevent pregnancy, you took that as a license to have sex. You may have your head together in other things, but you have been behaving like a slut and I'm going to call them as I see them. If you don't like being called a slut, then stop behaving like one.

i know im 12weeks and abit gone because i took a clear blue pregnancy test these tests dont just say your pregnant they say around how far gone you are as mine said 12-13weeks.
I'm sorry to tell you that's not exact. Getting pregnant and knowing who the father is, if you've had multiple partners around the same time, isn't an exact science.

I think you will find 'sex' is a natural thing Scott.
&yes I had sex at a young age but I had sex on my 13th birthday after I had been with someone for 4months its not like I went YES its my 13th birthday lets have sex with any guy out there I lost my virginity too someone that ment/means a lot too me and label me as what you want because iknow for a fact I am not a slut.
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And basically your labelling anyone that 13+ and that has sex as a slut I will think you will find most 13 year olds are having sex nowa days.
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&southamerica I would ring one of the hotlines but I live in england all of the hotlines are for america!
&i plan too go too a doctors very soon I'm going too sign too a new doctors one of which my cousin doesn't work at.
IF I keep the baby then I guess my parents will have too know.
So I would probably tell them after I'm 3months gone because before your 3months there's a chance you can still loose the baby and w.e so I want to make sure on what I'm doing first.
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I'm still really confused though not sure what I want right now-maybe too be someone else?

Omg so now the person I thought was the dad might not be the dad.
GREATTT even more worrying now.
Do I tell both of the boys that I slept with about the baby or neither?

i would ring one of the hotlines but i live in england all of the hotlines are for america!
The first link included England.

i think you will find 'sex' is a natural thing Scott.
&yes i had sex at a young age but i had sex on my 13th birthday after i had been with someone for 4months its not like i went YES its my 13th birthday lets have sex with any guy o
Hmmmm, how did my boyfriend of six years (age 15-21) and I control ourselves and not have sex?

CareConfidential Online - Pregnancy and Abortion Counselling (http://www.careconfidential.com/)

Helplines - NCT (http://www.nct.org.uk/info-centre/getting-help/helplines)

That's your dicission on whether you wanted too have sex or not but he asked me and I felt ready we had been together for 4months and for me that was long enough.
It felt right with him I felt special when I was with him.
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&its not that you controlled yourself it's that you made a dicission within you relationship not too have sex.

thats your dicission on wether you wanted too have sex or not but he asked me and i felt ready we had been together for 4months and for me that was long enough.
it felt right with him i felt special when i was with him.
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&its not that you controlled yourself its that you made a dicission within you relationship not too have sex.
No, we controlled ourselves (it was tough, but we did it) AND made the decision to wait.

You do realize that getting an abortion isn't a "get out of jail free" card, don't you?

i think you will find 'sex' is a natural thing Scott.
&yes i had sex at a young age but i had sex on my 13th birthday after i had been with someone for 4months its not like i went YES its my 13th birthday lets have sex with any guy out there i lost my virginity too someone that ment/means alot too me and label me as what you want because iknow for a fact i am not a slut.
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and basically your labelling anyone that 13+ and that has sex as a slut i will think you will find most 13 year olds are having sex nowa days.
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I guess your getting your information from the boys. Its not accurate at all. The average age is 17.


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New study finds teen girls regret having sex earlier - insciences (http://insciences.org/article.php?article_id=5101)

First, while teen sex rates are too high they have been declining and I think you are way off when you think "most" 13 yr olds are having sex.

Second, I know sex is a natural act, but its something that is shared between two people that are in a long term relationship and are deeply committed to each other. At 13 a 4 month relationship doesn't qualify. But if you had just stopped there I might have thought differently. But you didn't When you broke up with this boy you proceeded to have sex with several other boys by your own admission. In fact, so much so, that you can't be sure who the father is! That, my girl, indicates a slut. You can lie to yourself and fool yourself, but other people can see the truth. And if you don't change other people will see you like that. I'm sure the boys are telling their friends about this easy lay they found.

Ok then but all I'm saying is most girls in nottingham where I live are having sex from ages 13 and that's no lie I think a my school there's another girl in my year with 'twins' and 5 year 10's with children!
It wasn't 'several' by the way it was two other people.
Oh and at 13 a 4month relationship is really good in my eyes.
&im not even going to lie I was drunk at this party which is why I had sex with someone once againg myfault for getting drunk at the age of 14.
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&iknow it isn't a easy option an abortions a big thing and iknow that which is why right now I'm not too sure if that's what I want in my life.
I'm still confused and unsure on what I'm doing I just want to breakdown and cry but I've got too be stronger then that this is a majour thing and I never thought I'd be in this situation at this age but I am and there's nothing I can do now.

Ok then but all im saying is most girls in nottingham where i live are having sex from ages 13
Don't these girls have parents??

Of course they do.
But I guess when your having sex at that age you wouldn't tell your parents.
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I did tell my mum when I lost my virginity and we had a big disscussion about it and stuff and I did get grounded but my mum did see my point of view of that I felt I was ready and I felt special with who I had sex with.
My dad didn't take it so well he didn't go mad or anything he just got upset and I didn't see him for a month.

Don't these girls have parents?????

Sure they do and they live under bridges. Im starting to believe the OP is a troll.

Ok then but all im saying is most girls in nottingham where i live are having sex from ages 13 ...im not even gonna lie i was drunk at this party which is why i had sex with someone once againg myfault for getting drunk at the age of 14.
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Nottingham has a population of almost 3/4 of a million people and you are going to tell me you know more that half the teenage girls in the area? Maybe half the girls YOU know are having sex, but the overall numbers are much lower! It just means that you run in the wrong crowds.

And sure a month relationship is good in your eyes. But you are a child. An immature child who knows little of real life.

And the fact that at 14 you are going to parties where you get drunk just proves that. It also help spell S L U T!

I will think you find I live in a real nice house 5 bedroomed two kitchens conservatory dinning room living room cellarx2 3 bathrooms.
'not a BRIDGE'
And I can assure you my friends live in nice houses too.
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And the what's the OP?

ofcourse they do.
but i guess when your having sex at that age you wouldnt tell your parents.
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i did tell my mum when i lost my virginity and we had a big disscussion about it and stuff and i did get grounded but my mum did see my point of view of that i felt i was ready and i felt special with who i had sex with.
my dad didnt take it so well he didnt go mad or anything he just got upset and i didnt see him for a month.

Im amazed that this one place is alone in the world at beating the average consistently. Sounds like an epidemic to me.

Average Age at first sex by Country (http://chartsbin.com/view/xxj)

Aha.
You have ovioublsy never been too 'Nottingham' I'm not onnabout 'Nottinghamshire'-Thats the posh part where all the stuck up little *****es live.
Nottingham is the Town Centre Running From Saint'Annes-Meadows now TRUST me in NOTTINGHAM there are about 5 well known schools I have over 20friends that are girls in each of them five schools and I can guarantee you that you could ask any of my friends and they would say pretty much every girl form year 9-11 are having sex,In fact the only girls that arnt having sex are either asians or 'goody' people.
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&the whole I'm a slut because I've got drunk at a party is aload of **** its called having fun with your friends'celebrating'a special occasion!

BBC - Nottingham - People - Life as a teenage mum (http://www.bbc.co.uk/nottingham/content/articles/2009/02/19/teenage_pregnancy_sarah_feature.shtml)

You obviously feel you are grown up enough to have decided to be having sex from the time you were 13, knowing full well that it could result in pregnancy, so now it is time to act grown up and make a decision. If you can't talk to your parents about something this important, you are not ready to be having sex... plain and simple.

If you want a baby, can afford to take care of a baby, and provide properly for a baby, then have your baby. If you can't, then consider letting a loving couple adopt your baby or have an abortion. You will have to make a decision about abortion pretty quickly as you will need to go through the proper steps with your gp. They will strongly encourage you to confide in one of your parents.

the whole im a slut because ive got drunk at a party is aload of **** its called having fun with your friends'celebrating'a special occasion!
Isn't it illegal where you are? Where were the parents? Who bought the liquor?

YOU are the OP, and "living under a bridge" says more about your attitude and behavior than where you sleep at night.

Iknow that sarah girl.
She went too my cousins school.
I used too live in bulwell too.
And my cousins and my mamma live in aspley!-.-
Now do you believe me when I say most people are having sex young in nottingham?
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DoulaAC
You have some good suggestions but I'm not sure if I'd be able too carry my child then put her/him up for adoption I really dont''/

Your meant too be 16 with an adult too buy alcohol where I live.
21 without.
&we get our own money and then buy the alcohol from a couple of cheap shops where I live,no ID needed because I look older then I am so they just pressume I'm 18/19 n let me off on the 21 with ID.
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&i always have sex in my own bed or in my own house thanks never 'under a bridge'.

&i always have sex in my own bed or in my own house thanks never 'under a bridge'.
Where is your mum when this is happening? And it may as well be under a bridge for all the class it has.

Why not raise your baby while your mom is raising your brother or sister? You can share stuff.

so basically your saying I have 'NO class' hm okay then.
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&im not sure the whole sharing things I don't think it would seem right at all my mums like 7months pregnant now and I'm 12-13weeks it doesn't seem right at all when you think about mother and daughte being pregnant together it doesn't seem right at all!
the more I think about 'MY' baby it makes me think I want too keep it but then I'm not sure too much will happen if I do!baby,school=bullying.
its still a massive decision and I'm still not sure.

And when I'm drinking and stuff my mums normally at work or at home or gone too friends,holiday etc.

so basically your saying I have 'NO class' hm okay then.
Where's the class?

doesn't seem right at all when you think about mother and daughte being pregnant together it doesn't seem right at all!
No, it doesn't, does it. But there you go!

You will have to tell her, even if you get an abortion.

What exsacclay do you call class?
-not having sex until youv'e left school or something?
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&no it doesnct seem right which is why if I keep my baby I will move into my bestfriends house with her older sister I've already been offered a room there I've just got to sort stuff out with my mum.
&if I had an abortion I wouldn't have too tell her!-id go with my best friend she's been there for me since nursery so I would count on her seen as I was there for her when she had a miscarrage.

what exsacclay do you call class?
-not having sex until youv'e left school or something?
Class is being able to spell, to write well, to be able to use punctuation correctly, to be able to make mature decisions about alcohol and sex.

if I had an abortion I wouldn't have too tell her!
About a month ago, a girl a little older than you came here to ask about getting an abortion or what to do. We gave her phone numbers to call and told her to get help from adults before she made a decision. She ended up getting an abortion (and we don't know who she consulted), but then returned here to ask why she cries all the time and is so depressed.

Your hormones and body are already thinking "baby." You can't get an abortion without your hormones and body objecting emotionally. I'm not saying don't get one (or get one), but be prepared for your body's reactions.

What exactly do you want here bethanyjanee? I've read this whole thread through. You've gotten good advice and feedback for what you need to do-get to the doctor's and talk to your mother. But instead of doing either of those you sit here and argue with everyone over everything.

No, a fourteen year old and her mother having babies at the same time is not right. Fourteen year olds having babies at all, period, is not right.

I'm a little surprised that this is your first pregnancy from the information you've shared. Your story has gone from unprotected sex, to you know you didn't miss any pills, to you know you missed some. And then for the boys it's gone from your "long term boyfriend" (I feel like I need a sarcasm font here, four months is NOT enough time for a serious relationship to develop, especially not at your age), to the guy at the party to some other guy, but you've slept with that guy before (were you cheating on your boyfriend?).

I didn't notice anyone respond to your comments about experiencing yellow discharge before, so I'll address that now. Considering your lack of consistent use of protection and multiple sexual partners, the yellow discharge may be a sign of an infection or std. you need to have it checked out immediately.

If it turns out you do have an std, you will need to inform your previous partners so that they may seek appropriate treatment as well.

If you decided to keep your child, you will need to tell all potential fathers that they are just that-potential fathers, so that when the child is born you can determine paternity and establish custody and child support.

You really need to tell your mother what's going on now. The longer you wait, the worse it is. Tell her now so that you can discuss all of your options with her and give yourself adequate time to come to a decision that is best for you.

justcurious55.
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I have took advice and I have saved the numbers for abortion clinics that were given too me on here but I am not sure yet that an abortion is what I want.
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&iknow I have made A lot of big mistakes in life but I can't change anything now so what ever has happened is over.
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&NO I was not cheating on my boyfriend!I never would have either he was amazing&meant the world too me.
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There's 'two' potential fathers which I hate myself for right now I'm a complete idiot for everything but I guess I just do what my friends do if they get drunk I get drunk but un-fortuntaley I ended up having sex whilst drunk which had lead too one of the biggest things in my life now 'MY BABY'.

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The yellowy discharge mixed with blood has stopped now but I sha'll get myself checked out tomorrow probably,the one thing I'm not doing is going too the doctors about my baby yet I'm not ready too I need a day or two to think about everything and too talk too the two potential fathers about it.
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I haven't argued over anything I just wanted too prove my point!
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I will eventually tell my mum that I'm pregnant in a week or so not too long I just want too sort things out in my own head before I start trying too exsplain things too my mum.
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&right now I'm thinking I might keep my child I don't think I want too go threw with 'killing' someone I made!-ive not 100% decided yet though!still thinking.
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Bethany, the links I gave you are for pregnancy hotlines for single girls--to talk with someone and straighten out your head. Someone else did the same. I haven't seen any abortion numbers in this thread at all. No one has urged you to consider abortion.

There was a link I clicked on that had abortion numbers on!
Trust me there was a couple too talk about pregnancy and then a abortion clincs number along withit.
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Wondergirl finds this helpful : Yeah, but mom's on holiday for two weeks, and bethany doesn't want to spoil it for her.

Seems like she's been on "holiday" far too long... at 13 and 14 years old my mom or aunt still knew exactly who I was with, where I was, and I didn't dare even try sneaking alcohol because I would have gotten caught because, at least one of them was always acting like a mother.

And you need to tell your doctor about everything-your sexual past, the discharge, and the pregnancy. Your doctor cannot give you proper treatment without knowing the facts. Keep in mind, if you do end up having an std and needing medication your doctor will need to know so that he can prescribe medication that is safe for you and the baby, if you decide to keep it.

Talking to your mother, as terrifying as I'm sure it is, will help, after she gets over the initial shock. At fourteen you just don't have the maturity or wisdom to sort it all out on your own.

Well, I for one am finished with this thread. I wish you well.

By wonderGirl-Thankyou for your help.
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justcurious55.
I do understand what your saying but I feel too scared too tell anyone other then people I don't know that I'm pregnant its terrifying!
&as for my mum I'm not sure she will literally go mad!she's on holiday at the moment so I can't tell her anyway she will be back on the 2nd April so I sha'll tell her then!
My mum has always been there for me she's just gone away for a little relaxation before the baby comes and I'm fine with that!&just too let you know I don't sneak alcohol anywhere I'm aloud too drink alcohol just not too much but ovbiously when your at a party with no adults your going too drink a lot!
&the discharge thing I described the colour wrong its more of s browny yellow then reddy yellow,I don't know if that makes any differnce.
My boobs are sore and I have stomach cramps basically I feel like crap.

i know im 12weeks and abit gone because i took a clear blue pregnancy test these tests dont just say your pregnant they say around how far gone you are as mine said 12-13weeks.

This is not true. You know how I know that? Because I'm a nurse, I deliver babies, and girls come to me for pregnancy tests. There is NO urine HPT that will tell you how far along you are. The only way to know that is by a blood test or an ultrasound.

Now, again, I am a NURSE. I can promise you that either boy can be the father. You don't know for sure and you won't know for sure until, and if, the baby is born and a blood test is done.

I also want to let you know that you cannot have an abortion after 12 weeks in most places, and again, in most places you will have to have your parent's consent since you are under 18.

I can asuure you if you search up a clear blue pregnancy test it tells you how far gone you are(around how far gone).
&looks like I'm probably going too have too keep my baby then.
OMG this had really messed up my head

I'm aloud too drink alcohol just not too much but ovbiously when your at a party with no adults your going too drink a lot!
And there's the difference between being an adult and child. And adults are supposed to be around to supervise children to make sure this sort of thing doesn't happen.


As for the discharge and the cramp- YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR DOCTOR. I'm not encouraging you for or against abortion either way, but I'm getting the impression that is what you may be leaning towards. If you do want to keep the baby, then you need to see a doctor right away. Cramping and bleeding may be nothing, or they may be a sign of something going wrong with the pregnancy. The sooner you speak with your mother and a doctor, the sooner you can start taking care of yourself- whether that means scheduling an abortion, learning about safe sex (or how about even abstinence? ) and responsible drinking or getting yourself some prenatal vitamins and making sure you're eating healthy and all that.

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JustCurious55
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You have gave me the best advice out of this whole thing and I appreciate it very much so thank you.
Right now I don't an abortions an option for me.
So I think I'm probably going too keep my baby-not 100%though
I need too sort my life out now and I know I do no more parties,drinking,smoking,un-protected sex!anything that's bad for me and for my baby.-if I have my baby.
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& what's a abstinence?

J9
There's no need for you on this thread.
Iknow what pregnancy test I took and iknow that it told me how far gone I was you should look it up
"ClearBlue Pregnancy Test"-the only pregnancy test that can tell you around when you conceived.
So bye.

Abstinence? Do you know what it means to abstain from something? To not do it. Abstain from sex.

I'm glad that you appreciate my advice (although I think it was pretty much the same as everyone else's). I really think you should tell your mother sooner than later about all of this. Whether she's on holiday, she needs to know. Especially if you're thinking you might want to keep the baby.

J9
theres no need for you on this thread.
iknow what pregnancy test i took and iknow that it told me how far gone i was you should look it up
"ClearBlue Pregnancy Test"-the only pregnancy test that can tell you around when you concieved.
so bye.

Honey, I don't need to look it up. I'm a nurse. And it's impossible to tell how far along you are by urine alone.

Oh ye I know what too abstain is! Silly me.
And I agree I do need too speak too her so I will ring her tomorrow.
If you have Facebook inbox me and I will tell you how the convosation with my mum went
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Thank you once again

Conception Indicator ? How Far Along Are You? (http://www.clearblue.com/au/new-clearblue-digital-pregnancy-test-with-conception-indicator.php)

OK, here. I looked it up... this seems very fishy. I trust J's experience and knowledge much more than an advertisement that says this test can accurately tell you when you conceived with out any information at all on HOW it works.

So here's another lesson for you today... learn the difference between facts and fiction and how to do research to determine which is which.

And don't be rude to people trying to help you.

You don't watch telly then do you nurse?
Have you never seen a clearblue pregnancy test on the television?
Because seriously you should look it up because you will be learning something new.
Iknow what test I took TRUST me.
I'm not thick.
So you can now leave my thread and go look up a clearblue seen as you don't believe me.

Sorry -- just had to pop back in --

From ClearBlue's site --

"If you are pregnant, you’re probably curious to find out when your baby is due.
Just answer the two questions below and let us estimate your most likely due date."

And the dates you enter are your own best guess. Nothing definite there.

Yes but the test must be right because the party was 12-13weeks ago.
The test said 12-13 weeks
Therefore I think the tests right.

Bethany, I've asked the mods to edit out your full name from the post.

Not only is it dangerous to give out identifying information over the internet like that (anyone who comes to this site can see it, not just us), but we also prefer to keep discussions on the threads out in the open. If you'd like to share how the phone call goes please feel free to add to this thread.

clearblue site-
'Clearblue DIGITAL with Conception Indicator – so accurate… it also tells you how many weeks ago you conceived.
The Clearblue DIGITAL Pregnancy Test with Conception Indicator gives you double confirmation of the result. Its Smart Dual Sensor â„¢ not only tells you in words if you're pregnant or not, but if you are, it also shows you how many weeks pregnant you are.'
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Thank you my point is proven ^thats the test I took.

Clearblue DIGITAL Pregnancy Test with Conception Indicator

I just spoke with my OB/GYN about this test as we delivered a baby about an hour ago. He laughed and said that this test is not, in any way, reliable when it comes to predicting gestation.

I haven't read the entire thread, so I don't know if anyone's mentioned this yet.

If you are in fact 12 weeks pregnant then abortion is no longer an option. You're 3 months along, going into your second trimester. I don't know any legit doctor that will do an abortion in the second trimester.

There may still be some time, but if you're gong to have an abortion you have to decide soon, like today. Time is running out. This isn't something you can wait and decide later.

Iknow this already
But thank you anyway
I'm going too have too keep my baby now and I guess that's that on whether I give her/him up for adoption I'm not sure but there's plenty of time for me too decide that.
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I've got all the information I need now thank you everyone.

clearblue site-
'Clearblue DIGITAL with Conception Indicator – so accurate… it also tells you how many weeks ago you conceived.
The Clearblue DIGITAL Pregnancy Test with Conception Indicator gives you double confirmation of the result. Its Smart Dual Sensor â„¢ not only tells you in words if you're pregnant or not, but if you are, it also shows you how many weeks pregnant you are.'
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Thankyou my point is proven ^thats the test i took.

That is the stupidest argument I've ever heard... an advertisement said it so it must be true. I guess it's also true that if I swallow a watermelon seed a watermelon will grow in my stomach, that's what my mom said when iw as five. So following your logic, I guess it has to be true.

And you said you didn't argue with anyone's advice or feedback... ha.

you dont watch telly then do you nurse?
I don't have time to watch television, I'm busy delivering babies at night and sleeping during the day.

You believe everything you see on TV?

Ye like I said I said I 'didnt' when it came too this end bit I wanted too prove my point on that the test does exsist on er its accurate or not I'm not sure but owell I will find out how far gone I am properly.
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End of this thread now people there's no need for anymore help I've got all the advice I need and thank you!

From that site regarding the same test --

"If the result is ’Pregnant’ the Smart Dual SensorTM also monitors the concentration of the pregnancy hormone, and provides an estimate of how many weeks ago you conceived: 1-2, 2-3 or 3+. This is displayed together with the ’Pregnant’ result."

It probably said 1-2 and you read that as 12?

So you got pregnant about 3 months ago, at the middle or end of December?

To be fair, there is a pregnancy test that does display how far along you are. I don't believe it's accurate, but they are selling it and people are buying it.

The Clearblue DIGITAL Pregnancy Test with Conception Indicator (http://www.clearblue.com/ca/new-clearblue-digital-pregnancy-test-with-conception-indicator.php)

There's no way for a test to determine gestation. If it's basing gestation on hormone levels then it's not at all accurate. Each woman is different, and hormone levels alone cannot determine how far along a woman is.

To the OP, you may have all the answers you're looking for, but you cannot dictate when people stop posting on your thread. You can walk away any time you want and stop posting, but this thread is on a public site, and anyone can post for as long as the thread is open.

Dude, I'm 14 as well. My advise. Don't HAVE SEX! Dude your only 14!! This is kind of karma. Sex this young is WRONG. I'd say have it and put it up for adoption. Oh and call your mom. Or a doctor, or in your case call a priest. Good luck.

To be fair, there is a pregnancy test that does display how far along you are. I don't believe it's accurate, but they are selling it and people are buying it.

And the doctors aren't relying on it as it is not considered a reliable test for gestational age.

And the doctors aren't relying on it as it is not considered a reliable test for gestational age.

And I completely agree with them. I just wanted to point out that there is a test out there that claims it can predict how far along a woman is in her pregnancy.

If grown women are buying this test thinking that it's accurate, can we really blame a 14 year old for believing it?

I had posted on the previous page that the site says (in fine print) it's only an estimate .

I am now going to close this thread as it is apparent that this IS a troll by the inconsistencies in her story.