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quackymacduck
Mar 21, 2011, 06:12 AM
So here is the story...
Me and my girlfriend met while she visited a friend in college. She was from the midwest and I am on the east coast. We fell in love right away. We started a long distance relationship and continued it for two years until she moved to the East Coast to be closer to me. We have been together for a year since then.
We have had problems... she has questioned feelings for other guys before, but she always realizes she wants to be with me... My parents do not like her so its tough for me to go against their wishes but I do because I love her!
So we broke up for awhile after new years to kind of evaluate our relationship. I dated another girl to distract myself, which was a bad decision because I ended up having sex with her. At the same time I came to realize that my (ex)girlfriend really was the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. Well the girl I dated to distract myself with ended up messaging my (ex)girlfriend and telling her everything after I broke up with her. My (ex)girlfriend was obviously livid, but I spent days grovelling and sending flowers and showing her how sorry I was and how I only wanted to be with her. She told me that she was going to give me a second chance but she'd think about it a little more while on a cruise she was going on.
While on the cruise she was with her boyfriend's friend's brother most of the time. Well they ended up making out and sleeping in eachothers bed every night. They took two showers together and had sex the last night. Now he doesn't seem like the type of guy for her. He told her he had a girlfriend but it wasn't serious since it was only a month. He is in the army, trying to get redeployed, has had sex with over 35 different girls (my ex has only had sex with 3 guys). He is a smoker and originally she said she wasn't attracted to him.
Now things have changed. She got back and I was waiting at the airport with roses and had 6 dozen roses back at my apartment with multiple other gifts waiting for her. When we got back she told me everything, has been talking to him constantly since then and has asked me for space. I showed her I care for her with gifts and talking to my parents and everything. This all happened Friday night and Saturday night she sent me an email saying she thinks we are just comfortable together and that she needs to move back home. She knows if she comes back it is the real deal and I will never leave her or hurt her again.
I know I want to be with her. She is my everything, but a lot of people have told me to just drop her because if she loved me she wouldn't do this to me, but at the same time I think about how I love her and I made a mistake. It is so tough to not call her or text her or email her. It hurts not having her in my life. She was my best friend! I miss her...

talaniman
Mar 21, 2011, 09:12 AM
You poor fool, your heart is telling you to keep being a lovesick fool, and she is doing her thing in front of your face, while you are miserable. I agree with your friends, drop her like a hot potato, and get yourself in order, and not be a puppy for a female that is just playing you for the biggest fool of all.

Tell your heart to shut the hell up, and have some dignity, and self respect why don't you, because she is showing you none at all. No self respecting guy puts up with disrespectful behavior like this from any woman. And NO, she ain't the ONE!!

Act like a man, and maybe you can get treated like one.

lostinthedesert
Apr 2, 2011, 10:57 PM
Lost my best friend girlfriend too.. its over buddy time to move on. Lick your wounds and pick up the pieces

lifeisweird
Apr 6, 2011, 06:10 PM
It may seem really hard now but if I girl truly loved you she would not have put you through this I am sorry. You may think that what were saying is wrong and you shouldn't take our advice, but seriously when you love a girl and she is head over heels for you you will know and everything will fall into place. Parents will like her and fighting will be at a minimum. My advice is keep your head up tell her your sorry you just want your space and you don't want to be on a love sick emotional roller-coaster. This does not sound like a healthy relationship. I really am sorry.