Hey I've been to this site before and it really helped me get over breakups and stuff so I thought I'd come back for some advice if that's OK.

My question I guess is pretty simple but I'll go over my situation quickly first...

I'm a 20 year old guy and I live in a big city. Me and my ex broke up at the beginning of November from our 6 month relationship and for a good 3 months I was devastated and dealt with depression. It really hurt when she left me but I sucked it up and eventually got over it. I did the right things, I didn't contact her and I focused on bettering myself and my life and I can say I succeeded in a big way and I'm very proud of that. But the thing is I've been ready to date and wanted to date since the beginning of February. Unfortunately in the last couple months all I have to show are some one night stands.

I'm not in school right now and at my job I deal with men for the most part. My social life revolves around the guys I work with and as much as I like my group all of them either don't have any want to meet new women or are in committed relationships. I guess my point is when I go out it's always guys nights and I have very little opportunity to meet new women.

I'm young, attractive, funny, confident, nice and fun. I have my own car and a respectable job. I really don't mean to come off as cocky but for a girl in her early 20's I'm quite a catch. There's absolutely no reason why I can't be in a successful relationship right now but the circumstances of my life don't really allow me to meet women. It's at the point where it's very frustrating. And I can't even explain how much I miss having someone who's always in my corner supporting me, or having someone to care about and support from my side. I guess what I'm saying is I'm lonely and I miss having a girlfriend.

And I know the answer is obvious. Go places where there are a lot of women and talk. Join classes etc.. I know it's on me to do some of these things and I will. But I was just wondering if anyone here was in a similar situation? Maybe some of the things they did to improve their dating lives? Because right now mine is all but non existent.

Thanks everyone :)

Talaniman Rule - When you stop looking for love and romance and build a life that you enjoy, with friends and activities that make you happy, you will attract people who want to share it with you.

Enjoy hanging with the boys, but make time for other things on your own, with new people, and new experiences.

Talaniman Rule - Date them all! Short, fat, skinny, or tall! 18-80, blind, cripple, or crazy!

Have an active social life, and stop seeing a date as potential for romance. Have fun getting to know someone(s), without high expectations, or looking for a commitment. You are single, so act like it, and enjoy your freedom without drama, or distraction.

You never know who someone else knows or when options, and opportunities will arise, but it just follows that the more fun you have, the greater the opportunities.

Having fun with the guys shouldn't be your only option. Be creative about what activities you get involved with, and look into volunteering for those less fortunate. You don't go looking for a female to have a relationship with, you pay attention to the ones you find around you. Always have a life that you enjoy without them.

Dating is about having a great time, not an interview for romance, and when you get that down pat, then you can relax, and get to know someone as a friend, no strings attached, and be free to explore.

Seems that staying away from the normal traps like sex very early, or being exclusive with one female to soon, you keep your options open, avoid drama, and the pressure to maintain something with a stranger, and the key is be honest with yourself, and those you meet.

Be patient, and have fun until the right one finds you.

:) ^ woow well I kind of like that answer but here: It is 2011 and times change. If someone told me to find someone this way 6 months ago I would laugh and tell them never, but I ended up using it just this year and it worked for me.

Online Dating. It takes a bit of research to scope around and see which one you like and the features but honestly. You can make a profile to show as you said that you are a "catch" because of your job, your looks, your personality. Then instead of finding and being linked with " one night stand" types you will find someone who is on a similar page as you.

Joined a few @ the beginning of the year and found someone about a week.. a week and a half max. into it. Everyone would be different but I find that It is so helpful because you can see what people are looking for and its much more mature and straight forward.

hope this helps

Hi talon
My name is sahar and I live in malaysia ! I have the same situation ! If u want my suggestion , I suggest you to date with a girl , it does not matter if you don't like her , but try to be as normal as before .
This is your life and this things are natural and can be happen to anyone.
So do not destroy your life , you are young,attractive,funny,confident,nice and fun.omg you are too good to be true!! Life is so wonderful but don't forget It is your mind that make life wonderful.
Be happy and live wire!! :D
Wish YOU all the BEST...