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ildfanmw
Mar 17, 2011, 03:38 PM
Where I go to school everyone's a whore basically. Some pregnant girls &everyone has already lost there virginity.im a virgin though. I choose to not hang out with peopl who have sex and stuff because I know that I shouldn't &i hate to hear about when they do it or who they do it with. Its nasty to me. Anyway.

Is it wrong that I choose toseperate myself from them? I only have like 3friends. Maybe not even that, but its just hard to find a friend when your younger now whose not a virgin to.

goingmad
Mar 18, 2011, 12:38 AM
I don't think its wromg to separate yourself from other people if that's what you chose but it is wrong to lable people as whores because they have had sex I am a teen ager who has had sex before and I find it very hurtful that people can just stick lables on people. It's a personal choice and if we make that choice we deal with the cosequences but it doent mean that were bad people I think you need to stop judging people and get to know what they are like personaly if you don't like the conversations they arfe having simply walk away but just because people have sex doesn't make them bad people

southamerica
Mar 18, 2011, 02:17 PM
If you want to label people, you can. Don't be surprised though if it affects your ability to make friends.

As far as your original questions goes: GOOD FOR YOU for wanting to keep your virginity while you're young. If you don't want to hang around people who partake in activities you're uncomfortable with then that is your right, by all means. I'm 24 and I still make those decisions all the time. You can be as picky as you wish with the friends you make and keep-they are the people that you expend your time and energy on and you need to make sure that time and energy is worth it TO YOU.

Back to labeling people: We all do it, but it's best to keep it in your head. If I know someone parties too much and drives drunk, I label them as "dangerous" and "irresponsible" in my head and I steer clear of them. It's a tool we all use to relate to the people in our lives.

It starts to become bullying behavior when you talk about those labels with other people. If you're uncomfortable around promiscuous people, then know that about yourself and steer clear of those activities. It's not nice to tell others "so-and-so's such a whore", and it's hurtful to be gossiped about.

Stick to your principles and don't say mean things about others or to others and you will be fine! Good luck!

Ima18
Mar 25, 2011, 06:18 PM
Well you don't to be friends with people that are exactly like you. It is always good to have some friends that are different so you can see things from another perspective. If you feel uncomfortable with them talking about those sort of things in front of you (and you're friends with them, other wise they'll think it's weird!) then try and tell them that you'd rather not talk about those sort of things with them. Trust me, they can wait till you've left the room. (Don't become influenced by them though!)
But if you really don't like it then I guess it's OK. You don't need to have heaps of friends, having 2 or 3 really good friends is better then having 20 'friends' you don't know so well.
Ps: There are more people that are virgins then you think they are. People just like to talk big.
Good luck.