Hey, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and I'm not sure if I want to be with him anymore. Lately he has been spoiling me a lot which is nice but in our relationship I feel like he has given me rules.
Everyday when he goes to work, I have to text him on his lunch breaks. If I don't I get into trouble. I have to make him lunch for work every morning, I have to clean the house, wash his clothes, cook him dinner and all that. If I don't I get into trouble. He also wants to have sex everyday and if he doesn't get that then I have to give him other stuff otherwise he is ****ty. Even if he has one day without it, he gets ****ty. If I go out anywhere, I have to tell him where I'm going, what I'm doing and who I'm with. He has already told me that he wants me to be a housewife. I don't want that. I also have certain job industries that I am allowed to work in. He has a real jelousy problem, I can't work with guys and if a guy just looks at me he gets ****ty at me.
I feel like I have rules and I just don't think I'm happy. I'm going to Melbourne tomorrow to see my dad and I don't know if I should come back. If I don't, how do I tell him that?

Please help me!!

What do you mean by you get in trouble? Is he violent in anyway? Have you talked to him about this?

If I were in your shoes, I would leave. People don't often change, and not this far into the relationship. A relationship should be more of a partnership, not one person in control of the other. If you were happy following the rules and being a housewife to him, I'd say stick around. But anytime you have to come online and ask if you should be with someone, the answer is almost always no. you obviously aren't very happy with the way things are.

How you should tell him will depend on how you think he might react. If there's any chance of him becoming violent, either have someone like your father there with you, or else call him and do it over the phone. No sense in putting yourself in harm's way.

Short & sweet...RUN AWAY!! DUMP HIM ASAP! He's a manipulative, overly possessive, control freak. I know, I've been around both male & female versions & I can spot them in a instant. You are not someone's possession you are a person with hopes, dreams & aspirations. If he can't understand that or support you (which it doesn't sound like he even remotely does), then to hell with him. (sorry but guys like that really tick me off)
Good luck!

Leave and don't go back-this guy's serious bad news.

There are too many red flags -I'm betting he's likely to turn violent if you don't do his bidding.

RUN!

One more thing, I'd tell him over the phone AFTER you're at your Dad's place. I concur with justcurious55, "boyfriend" sounds like he could go off his nut & turn violent. Best give him plenty of time & space afterwards. And don't be fooled by puppy dog eyes, tears & tales of woe. He's bad news-period!

It would be just the thing he needs to get a phone call, and find out you aren't coming back, and you will no longer be a subject for any of his rules, or attitudes. I say that because I don't know if you are afraid of him, or what he may do, or not. But why take a chance?

Surprised you put up with this crap for two years. If he is like this as a boyfriend, for sure it will be worse as a husband. You want a relationship with an equal, not a master. Rules and boundaries should be discussed and agreed upon, not made by one and enforced, nor punished if they are not obeyed.

PS.

My wife adds you should have given him the evil eye when he made his first rule. I can tell you the evil eye is worse than getting a NO, and leaves little room for discussion.