Hi I will be married 27yrs in April, 6 weeks ago my husband 53 and myself 45 got caught cheating with another woman which had been going on for 2 years texting and then 6 months ago it got sexual, my husband was telling terrible lies to try and cover up his cheating. He is sick with arthritis, the other woman hasn't left her husband and he knows about the affair and turns ablind eye to it she comes home and gets into his bed after being with my husband, she has 12 year old twin girls and a lovely home, my husband has nothing he is just a good talker which he made me promises the whole time we were married he was lazy and made no effort in our marriage. He has run me down to this woman and telling terrible lies about myself and our kids,he takes this woman away for weekends, dinner etc he left us with debt and just ran away from it all. I know we are better off with out him! Will he ever regret what he has done and will he ever try to come home? Depressed..

He probibly will. When its too late.

Eventuyally he's going to find out she's not the Gem he thought she was even if she does leave her husband, and she finds out he's not who he appeared to be either. Its like the old saying. The grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence.

But by the time he finds out it was an illusion the gate already closed and locked behind them.

When a man decides to cheat he already knows he is not the man he or everyone else though he was. That includes his wife, his children, his parents and the decent friends he has. If she stays in the picture for long, the other woman will realize this too. She may be hot right now & HE may be hot right now, but soon he will become just another old, boring man. Yes, he will probably regret leaving someone who understood him & stood by him. But when he does, it will be too late. And he may never regret what he has done & caused. In any case, you are better off. You could never trust someone that wanted to drop back into your life & expected to pick up as if nothing ever happened. And you could never trust someone again who hurt you & the children so much... trust is a hard thing to make someone feel who has reason NOT to trust you. These types of men don't care whether you do or not...

will my husband regret leaving me for another woman?

He might, but by then you should be in no mood to hear him beg for forgiveness.

He was going behind your back for a long time and there are consequences to pay for actions like that. Let him pay, and waste no more time on his needs because its your time NOW to be happy traveling down a better path.