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TheMaster170
Mar 14, 2011, 03:49 AM
Hello all!

So here's the thing:

There's this girl at the gym I go to (she started working there a few months ago) whom I find very attractive and from whom I've been getting very positive vibes, such as she's always near me, she stares at me a lot of times and when we meet in eye contact, it takes a lot of time to end it lol.

We have talked one time, but it was nothing much. So one day I made up in my mind that I would approach her. But, as she is working, I could never find her in a break to try to meet her. So one day I found her Facebook page and decided to approach by it (of course I prefer face to face and I'm perfectly fine with it... but I was getting very irritated because things were not moving on).

So I sent her a friend request and a message saying that I wanted to see if she was more than just a pretty face, that I couldn't find her in a break to approach her in person and that I already noticed her... noticing me :P

Well, it's been 3 days and no answer... And I'm almost sure she rejected my request.

So tell me... What should I do? Should I try to talk to her face to face or should I "take the message" (the rejected request was an indirect 'no, I don't want to meet you') and move on?

Thanks for all the help! :D

amicon
Mar 14, 2011, 04:14 AM
You move on,she didn't get back to you,so that's her'reply'.

I wish
Mar 14, 2011, 08:09 AM
I think it's better to talk to her in person rather than using the Facebook approach. Some people only use Facebook to keep in touch with friends and you're not friends yet, so there's no reason for her to respond.

Stick with finding an opportunity to speak to her in person and go from there.

adviceishere
Mar 14, 2011, 08:13 AM
Its could also be possible she doesn't log on as much, you say you can never catch her on a break, she's probably a busy woman, I would try the face to face approach, you will get your answer for sure! Good luck

Jake2008
Mar 15, 2011, 07:24 AM
If she hasn't rejected you, she hasn't accepted you either. It's quite possible it could be 50/50 either way.

Why not be a little more assertive. With these long moments looking at each other, why not use that time, to casually go over and see if she'd be interested in having a coffee with you sometime. Just stop excercising, and go and talk to her.