chidecoi
Mar 13, 2011, 10:19 PM
Hey so basically me and my ex went out for 3 years then broke up! It was really depressing but her reason because she has lost the feeling like she used to for me and other small things.
After the break up, the next day everything was still okay. I drove to her house a new next few days to talk my heart out to her, basically I was asking her to give me a second chance. She replied "it's still a short time and you already asked for a second chance and told me to give her more time" Then in a next two or three days, I started talking back to her because she thought I didn't want to be "friend" with her, but I kind of realized that I was bothering her. She asked me to give her more time because she's still upset that I came over and asked for a chance. She clearly want to say that she just wants to focus on school right now. She is stressed with all everything around her family and school work. She still wanted to be friend with me so I said "okay..." Later on, we had to do a same homework and I had no idea why I asked her to go to my cousin's birthday with everyone else. At first she said she is busy with all the work but later she realized it's a date with everyone else. She said "She will keep her mind about it", but I just told her "It is okay if you can't make it" because it seems like I was pressuring her. From that time till now, she totally ignore me and we walk past by each other without saying "hi" or anything. She now seems like having her own world working and working at school all the time. Sometimes I feel like she wants to start talking to me but I just don't feel like bothering her again, so I ignore her as well.
Now please tell me what to do? I feel like I did everything to get her back or as a boy friend. Will she ever think about it because now I has given her all the space and time she asked for.
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Update: my ex didn't really say that she lost the feeling for me. A few weeks before she said if we spent less time together, we could have done others things. She felt like she stole me from everyone and changed me a lot. However, she felt guilty because she doesn't listen to my opinion sometimes and turned me down. That feeling building up and that's why we had a few conversations before the break up happened. At the day I came over to her house, she held my hand and talked like normal. I asked that whether she still have the feeling for me? She said she still cares for me as a friend. I asked will you consider me in a future because I know you would change your mind and go back to me instantly. She said "yes, I will". But the next day she just so different to talk.
At this point, I want to give her own space and do her things. She is busy at school all the time. I myself are changing to be better. From the way I acting, dressing up more, I go socializing more and more with people l
After the break up, the next day everything was still okay. I drove to her house a new next few days to talk my heart out to her, basically I was asking her to give me a second chance. She replied "it's still a short time and you already asked for a second chance and told me to give her more time" Then in a next two or three days, I started talking back to her because she thought I didn't want to be "friend" with her, but I kind of realized that I was bothering her. She asked me to give her more time because she's still upset that I came over and asked for a chance. She clearly want to say that she just wants to focus on school right now. She is stressed with all everything around her family and school work. She still wanted to be friend with me so I said "okay..." Later on, we had to do a same homework and I had no idea why I asked her to go to my cousin's birthday with everyone else. At first she said she is busy with all the work but later she realized it's a date with everyone else. She said "She will keep her mind about it", but I just told her "It is okay if you can't make it" because it seems like I was pressuring her. From that time till now, she totally ignore me and we walk past by each other without saying "hi" or anything. She now seems like having her own world working and working at school all the time. Sometimes I feel like she wants to start talking to me but I just don't feel like bothering her again, so I ignore her as well.
Now please tell me what to do? I feel like I did everything to get her back or as a boy friend. Will she ever think about it because now I has given her all the space and time she asked for.
Additional Details
Update: my ex didn't really say that she lost the feeling for me. A few weeks before she said if we spent less time together, we could have done others things. She felt like she stole me from everyone and changed me a lot. However, she felt guilty because she doesn't listen to my opinion sometimes and turned me down. That feeling building up and that's why we had a few conversations before the break up happened. At the day I came over to her house, she held my hand and talked like normal. I asked that whether she still have the feeling for me? She said she still cares for me as a friend. I asked will you consider me in a future because I know you would change your mind and go back to me instantly. She said "yes, I will". But the next day she just so different to talk.
At this point, I want to give her own space and do her things. She is busy at school all the time. I myself are changing to be better. From the way I acting, dressing up more, I go socializing more and more with people l