Hi everyone,

I have been having a difficult time over the last month and although my boyfriend did try to help me, I pushed him away because I felt pressured by him to be OK. He has a drinking problem too and I was overwhelmed by both mine and his problems. He got patience with me very quickly and decided that he was no longer seeing us as serious or long-term, even though the week before he was talking about making our future plans together. We have had a very intense relationship for 7 months and I have never once pressured him about the future, in fact we never spoke of it.
After some serious rows, we were on a break and simply discussing our problems and going to take some space. Then he says it's over and he can't see a long-term solution anymore and that he's not ready for a relationship now. 4 hours later, he calls to say it was a minsunderstanding because he felt pressured and tired. Now what do I do?

I highly suggest you both solve your individual problems, as they are the basis for much frustrations, and misunderstandings, and few relationships survive that kind of pressure. I think you both send each other mixed signals because, you are both mixed up about what you want, and how to express your needs to each other.

Deal with the things you can, and let the rest go.

Seems the both of you are all over the place with emotions and decisions. Seek clarity by being yourself for a while without a boyfriend. This relationship does not sound healthy.

Best of luck!

Heh you are absoulutely righ hun