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oopsmj
Mar 6, 2011, 05:35 PM
Personally , Ive never been satisfied with having sex with stranger for first time. I think its because guy doesn't know girl's body yet. So, I prefer trained(?) partner than one night standed. I'm wondering what guys preference?

justv
Mar 6, 2011, 06:29 PM
Sorry or call me prude, but sexual preferences are and I feel, should be kept personal. Different sexual partners will be just that... different. Sexual attitudes are one's own perception of sex either in general or at the time or momemt as some prefer to say. This type of question is too broad with too many varibles that make it actually in my opinion, something you should maybe self-analyze. Know thyself! The sooner the better...

JustV

Enigma1999
Mar 6, 2011, 06:49 PM
How old are you?

Cat1864
Mar 6, 2011, 08:08 PM
She's 22 (another thread.)

Enigma1999
Mar 6, 2011, 08:23 PM
Thank you cat. :)

Oopsmj,

To be quite honest, I have never made love to a stranger. Although some people are OK with that, I am not.

Call me old fashioned, but I tend to make the man wait a while before giving it up. To me its more then just knowing my body, its about knowing my mind and heart.

Only a couple have had the privilege of knowing both.

That's just me though.

CravenMorhead
Mar 6, 2011, 10:38 PM
I will admit that I will be a little more blunt then I am usually am tonight.

It has been my experience that, regardless of prowess of either party, the first couple times are... always underwhelming. You are getting to know the person. You might have Don Jaun with your last girlfriend, but with your new girlfriend you just can't seem to do anything right.

I have never had a one night stand. I have wanted them, I won't front that, but I get conflicted. What is the point? Rutting around is all fine and good and drunk sex can be fun, but in the end it doesn't seem worth the risk. You could get infected, you could get her pregnant, or you could fall into any one of a number of traps.

I don't think it is worth it. I am a guy.

oopsmj
Mar 6, 2011, 11:34 PM
Thanks guys for the reply.

I do love in steady and safe sex.
Me and my girls was talking and we were wondering if guys feel the same too. Because nomaly guys are easily satisfied in bed (I don't know if its true lol)

oopsmj
Mar 6, 2011, 11:37 PM
Well. I don't mind not knowing your pesonal sexual preferences ;)

smoothy
Mar 7, 2011, 11:29 AM
Guys like a "new girl" excitement part of it... however as you did correctly state... they don't know you and thus you won't get as much out of it as you could otherwise. However that excitement can make even horrible sex look good... at that moment anyway.

You lose that excitement but gain some really good sex you can only have when you get to know each other over a long period. Personaly... even as a guy... I find that more satisfying.

Both are good in the moment... but think of it like eating at a good Chinese restaurant... and having a really good home cooked meal.

Both are really good. But you aren't hungry again nearly as soon after the home cooked meal because it was more satisfying.

DaniCalifornia
Mar 13, 2011, 10:57 AM
I wait until I'm in love with a partner to have sex with them.

But the first time I do, although it is exciting, I'm a tad insecure. I'm often wondering what he'll think of me.

For some people, they probably have sex with too many strangers for it to be exciting.

Xx Dani G

oopsmj
Mar 13, 2011, 11:04 AM
Thanks! How many time you've been in love and how many partners you've had sex? Does sex affect you to fall in love?

DaniCalifornia
Mar 13, 2011, 11:33 AM
I've been in love 4 times, courted three. Broke up with the latest three days ago, who abused me. He was a selfish lover, it really does affect the relationship. If I wasn't in love with him, I wouldn't have slept with him. Sex to me is spiritual, and forms a special connection. Therefore I was much more attached to him than I should have been. Having sex with him the first time did make me fall for him more though, because of this new connection formed.

I'm all for waiting for someone special, and I will be teaching it to my children when I decide to have them. I just couldn't be with someone on a one night stand or such!

Sorry I seem to have wandered from the subject a tad! Heh.