View Full Version : My fianc? Is asking for a week break...
needadvice666
Feb 21, 2011, 04:16 PM
OK so we have been dating for 4 years we have a child who is 1 year and 3 months old, she in online collage and study's a lot so we don't really see each other as much as we want, well I text her every now and then saying I love you, or I want to see her or I'm going crazy not seeing her, we have been threw a lot I went to jail a lot a few years ago she stay with me threw all of that I was emotional distressed and I attempted suicide 2 years ago and she stuck with me threw that as well, we have been threw so much, and she's saying I'm nagging her about seeing her, so yesterday she said she wants to take a week break where she is saying she needs to focus on school and our son, she said she's not going to see anyone and that I'm aloud to see anyone or do anything I want, well why would I do that? I'm in love with her, well today I was on this site myyearbook.com we go on it a lot and she wrote me out of the blue.
Well don't you have some groupies on here. A few local girls too.. Kind of funny how all the sudden your on here since you lost all communication with all the sluts on Facebook and Myspace.. Anyway, what happened to giving me my space? And you constantly checking my profile... I don't know.. Ttyl..
I don't know what she is doing, I'm giving her, her break she wants and asked for and out of the blue she sent me this, could anyone pelase give me advice on what's going on here? I'm confused.
Homegirl 50
Feb 21, 2011, 05:13 PM
Well are you checking up on her on that site?
I don't know what she is thinking. Don't respond and continue to give her space.
needadvice666
Feb 21, 2011, 05:16 PM
Weird said someone answered but there is nothing here lol
I check her site once and that was it, yea my mum said the same thing to not respond, but its so hard not responding to her I miss her already and its only been 2 days
needadvice666
Feb 21, 2011, 05:37 PM
OK I think I should shed some light on over the past 5 months, OK so oct 14 2010 I saw that there was a guy commented her on her statues on Facebook, I go to his page and saw that his relationship stat is he is dateing her, so I go and ask her what going on she screams and yells at me saying nothing is going on, so I asked him what's going on so we talk some more and he said that they were going to meet up after Christmas his name is ZAKE and when you add someone to your relationship stat they have to confirm it, which I didn't now up until recently, I didn't want to bring it up and start a fight, well we fought big time she yelled and yelled saying he's a stalker etc,well after hours of yelling she finally admitted she talked to him once, well she gave me her Facebook login I went on and acted like I was her, I know it was bad thing to do but I needed answers, well I started talking to him saying stay away from me etc and he replied saying *** I thought we were going to be together, well I blew it off and decided to give her a chance, well then December 19th a day after out 4 year anni we broke up for a few days because I brought up the zake guy and she got sick of it, well we got back together, and after new years I saw her texting her friend in Florida, and I noticed that her "friend" her area code is 509 which is where I live I asked her about it and she said I'm just being paranoid, well I text the guy and he said that she told him that she has a fiancé well his name is ZACH, and they hung out Christmas eve had burgers and made cookies, he said he wasn't going to do anything and wouldn't break us up, well I asked her about him and she then again lied to me saying she dsnt know him, and he sent me pics that she sent him she never sent pics to anyone at all before, well then I dropped that as-well because it was harmless he wasn't going to do anything and he broke all contact with her and we talk a lot now, well after those two she broke contact with them, deleted them from Facebook and put them on ignore on her phone,well a few weeks ago I gave her my faebook login because she was saying I'm ****ing around which I am not, OK before we were together I was a "manwhore" I ****ed everything that walked, then me and her dated and instantly fell in love with her and I do admit I cheated on her the first few months then started getting serious and only thought of her, well OK I gave her my Facebook login then I asked her for hers and she wouldn't give me it, so asked why not and she said because I will mess with her profile, well we never had problems giving each other our logins. Well lately she has been saying I nagg at her and push her buttons, when all I do is text her saying I love her and miss her to death, is that nagging? I ask her some questions like how was her day what did she do what did she have for lunch and how is my son and she just starts yelling at me saying I'm bugging her and that I'm asking too many questions... now that should shed a crap load of light on what's actually happening, and despite all of that I love her to death and don't want to loose her, and can't stand the thought of losing her
talaniman
Feb 21, 2011, 05:42 PM
Give her what she asked for space. I would give her a month and a few extra days. Heck she can take the rest of her life.
What's up with you guys that can't find something else to do for a few days or a week?
talaniman
Feb 21, 2011, 05:52 PM
needadvice666 does not find this helpful : was stupid
Stupid is putting up with this kind of crap! Come on guy, She treats you like a dog and still you stay for more?? I would have been LOOOOOOOOOOONG gone.
Ain't that much love in the world worth your dignity, and self respect.
needadvice666
Feb 21, 2011, 06:11 PM
The thing is she was never like this, started like this after we were not able to see each other all the time anymore, and we have a son together I don't want him growing up not having his dad around
I just don't know how I can live or love again with her being gone, I'm miserable without her. I just don't know how to show she's the one who changed I need to show her she's the one who changed not me. I want to make her see it, and not hurt us..
talaniman
Feb 21, 2011, 06:38 PM
Having a kid together makes it tougher for sure. I can feel for you, but I still think you can be a good dad without having to kiss her butt so much. What other nuggets of info are you holding back?
You don't really have to show her anything or act like a crazy ex. Leave her alone and just focus on your child. How old is he? Don't you know that break ups, like divorces, happen every single day? Take a week to let your emotional dust settle. Longer if you have to.
needadvice666
Feb 21, 2011, 07:04 PM
He's 1 year 3 months, we were even discussing another child the other day and when we were going to get married, we were getting everything planned out, everything started when I said I was going crazy not seeing her then she said she can't do this anymore and that we need a break
Homegirl 50
Feb 21, 2011, 07:32 PM
Seems like you have already lost her.
Take care and be there for your son, but leave her alone.
You guys have been through a lot she has been through a lot, this may be the end of the line for this relationship
Leave her alone.
needadvice666
Feb 21, 2011, 08:04 PM
Yea that was what I was thinking, I hope she finds out what she lost
Homegirl 50
Feb 21, 2011, 08:42 PM
You have lost too. She hung in there through a lot with you.