Joel I have just started seeing, and my family and friends love him. He is perfect for me in ideal, but he is horrible in bed. He has everything I would want in a guy, but I find myself constantly wanting to break up with him.

Theo my ex came back into my life after I started seeing Joel and knows everything about me and is great in bed, we attract to each other like magnets, but my friends and family hate him since he beat me last year. I know he's horrible for me, but part of me is dating him to because I want to make him hurt like he hurt me, and the other part is still head over heels for him.

Please give advice.

Do you love Joel? You say Theo knows everything about you so of course he's good in bed, he knows what you like, you just have to teach Joel what you like and dislike, but first you need to choose or dump them both, I can't help you there that's your decision

Drop the ex from the equation as what's dumber than going with a guy who beat you, and you still hate him for it. That's crazy.

As for the new guy who can't get the sex right, dump him too, because you aren't ready for a healthy adult relationship, and he deserves better than a cheater who is only in it for good sex.

You have a lot of baggage to unpack, before you think you can have a good healthy relationship with any one.

So drop both of them, and find someone who has it all , or at least someone who you can agree is good enough