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dogs24
Feb 18, 2011, 08:50 AM
Hi, l have been in a two year relationship with a good man. We live together in my house. The last few months there has been a lack of intimacy. He's a big cuddler and affectionate in our house but not in public. What kind of problems arise with men that are not interested in having sex but are affectionate otherwise? Also, been stating that marriage is an Outlook for our future but has a commitment problem since we have been living together for more than a year with our children. Intimacy is a big part of closeness and bond between two people... is this a sign of an ending relationship with a nice man that doesn't want to break someone's heart?__

answerme_tender
Feb 18, 2011, 09:14 AM
This is the man that you love, you live with. So take the bull by the horns and just sit down with him and TALK about the lack of relations. Let him know of your concerns. Might want to get a babysitter for children, so you can take him some place that you won't be interupted, and make sure you treat this conversation as you would talking to a friend, just calmly,no drama.

Take care

joypulv
Feb 18, 2011, 09:36 AM
Agree, talk to him.
Many women assume that men's interest in sex never flags. Not true. Stresses about work and money and any worries can have a tremendous affect. So can whatever is missing for excitement, whether it's on top of a desk or a sexy outfit (men respond to visual turn ons more than women, they say). Other men really do seek mother figures, and are willing to forgo passion for that wonderful nest and yummy food you provide.
Talk without recriminations. Just ask and listen. There is no good or bad, right or wrong, when it comes to this.

talaniman
Feb 18, 2011, 06:00 PM
Some guys are just not that publicly affectionate, but if you talk to him you may find its not about you or the relationship, its just about him and how he is.