View Full Version : I can't tell him I love him. What should I do?
musky99
Feb 13, 2011, 06:57 PM
I am a chinese girl and just came here last year.
I feel so helpless here. One reason is that my english is not well
So I seldom talk to others in school unless needed
But it seems that I love a guy in my class
Although we didn't talk, I just noticed that I always stared at him,
And when he laughed, I felt very warm inside my heart and smiled unconsciously.
I know that he has many friends but I don't know if he has a girlfriend
I am so nervous everyday. I dare not talk to him let alone what I feel about him.
Now I feel I am a little self-abased, I was not so shy before...
I don't know what happened to me and what I should do... so sad
Who can save meeeee?
adviceishere
Feb 14, 2011, 01:49 AM
I just read your post and your english sounds great to me! I'm being really honest.. actually you use your words better than my english!:D so try not to be so self conscious about this, maybe stop focusing so much on this guy and start using you english to make some friends :) you will eventually build yourself esteem when you see that there is not so much of a language barrier when talking to your peers, and then when you feel good in yourself you can say hello to this guy or ask for some of his notes that you "forgot" to take down :) good luck
Devorameira
Feb 14, 2011, 06:36 AM
You aren't "in love" with him, just a little smitten.
You write well, so your English must be good... stop worrying.
Just try to strike up a friendly conversation with him, but don't jump in and tell him you love him or you'll chase him off for sure. Just develop a friendship and see if it ends up developing into more.
talaniman
Feb 14, 2011, 01:00 PM
Work on making friends, and don't be to quick to confess love for an attractive stranger, until you know them very well. Not having friends, or activities that you enjoy, can make strangers appear to be more attractive to you than they are.
Don't even think about giving your heart to a stranger, in a strange land before, he has proved he deserves it. Make some friends and practice your English, join a club, or some activity that you enjoy. Then you won't get so carried away by your crush.
musky99
Feb 15, 2011, 12:31 AM
Thank you for praising first, I think the problem was my pronunciation. Whatever, I'll try to work harder and improve my abilities. I feel better now<3
musky99
Feb 15, 2011, 12:40 AM
Yea... maybe... because I'm not sure about that feeling.
Sometimes I thought,"well, just tell him and se how it goes" but. Yea. I know that's so rash.
It's a good idea to make friends with him first. But still don't know how to develop a conversation...
Hmm... really feel better, thanks for post!
musky99
Feb 15, 2011, 12:55 AM
YOU ARE SO RATIONAL. That's true that maybe I just adore him...
And. I have thought about that- we have different cultures, religious, and ways of life. Or...
OMG am I thinking too much?
I will try to make more friends though. But I think it's a little hard...
And maybe as time goes, I'll find out whether I love or just attractived by him.
Hoping that I can be as sensible as you one day and thank you very muchh!!