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marie32
Feb 11, 2011, 09:32 PM
Three years ago me and this guy dated for a good while. We broke up because we were attending different schools and never saw each other. Two years ago I went to a dance with one of my good friends and he was there. We danced all night and all of our old feelings came rushing back. The last tine I saw him was when he went with my church to a concert. We hung out all night and almost dated again. But I had feelings for a different guy then. Just randomly today he text me and asked if I wanted to go to lunch with him. We haven't really talked in a good year, he is in town this weekend and wanted to meet up with all his old friends. Convienantly no one else is available so it is just going to be us. I would like for me and him to get back together because I never stopped loving him. I know he doesn't like long distant relationships and I have no idea how he feels about me anymore, so should I even think about hitting or saying how I feel?

edmguy80
Feb 11, 2011, 09:49 PM
Hi, what you're saying sounds very reasonable as long as your feelings or situation is over with the other man you mentioned, if it's not that may complicate things however that's your decision. If the other man is not in the picture anymore I'd say what's holding you back? Go for it! Also if you're worried about things not working or him having issues with long distance relationships or something, that should not mean you hold back or not try. He can make his decisions based on what's happening and what works for him and you should worry about what works for you and making decisions based on what suits you. Hope things work out, I'm sure they will. Cheers.

vikiviki
Feb 11, 2011, 10:33 PM
I am sure you like each other very much, and the only problem is that you were separated in two place.
For you , there are two question: first, do you love each other? Second, one of you must change work and place for your love and marriage.
The first problem have resolved, so only the second.
I do not think the second is a big problem.

talaniman
Feb 12, 2011, 04:41 PM
Please no confessions of undying love on a reunion after a few years. Maybe exchanging contact info would be more appropriate. And see how it goes. But confessing your feelings?? No way, as you better get reacquainted first, don't you think? Intense feelings doesn't change the fact you are strangers now. You both have changed in two years surely.

As an after thought here, if he could have text you all along, and kept in touch, why didn''t he? Another fact not to be ignored.

vanheart
Feb 12, 2011, 07:09 PM
Yeah, after 3 years.

Imagine if this hadn't happened. Just because you had a moment, that doesn't mean anything.

"beacuse I never stopped loving him". Bet you knew he was going to be there.

May seem romantic. But the reality, is different.

Don't read anything into this. Just live your life. Chalk it up to a nice time.

There's more dances out there.

marie32
Feb 12, 2011, 09:35 PM
Thanks for all your help. We did find out that we both still have feelings for each other, but with both of us being busy with school and extracurriculars we are waiting until the summer to think about trying us again. Thanks again for all your answers.

vanheart
Feb 12, 2011, 09:41 PM
Awesome.