Things were going really well, but then it turned bad. The week before she broke up with me she gave me a early valentines day card, and spilled her heart in it. She said how much she loved me and couldn't wait to get started with our lives and get a house together. Then the following week she left me.. by the way I forgot to mention that we are a gay couple and I'm am not a guy ;)but anyway we got into an argument the night before she broke up with me because I was mad that I was never invited to hang out with her friends, which our mutual with me. It just agrivated me and I understand she needs her time with friends too. But me being *****y I just got mad.she talked to me after the breakup and got upset and cried, she said that she loves me but she needs space, and I asked if we'd ever get back together and she said not right now, and there was no one else she just wants time. Well we go to college together, she said she wants to hang out as friends still, which is hard. Things have been great though, and then the other night she looked into my eyes and kissed me.. its been 2 weeks since our breakup an she did this the other night.. then the next day apologized an said not to take it the wrong way but she didn't mean to kiss me. I really love her, of course. And I really want to work all of this out but right now I just need hope and I took that as some kind of hope.. I guess I need some reassurance..

She might be going through a hard time, maybe she is doubting her sexuality, or maybe she is just doubting whether or not she really loves you. Which a lot of people do. I think that she meant to kiss you, but I have a feeling that it was for her. Yes some people do it just to keep people coming back, but from the way it sounds she loves you she is just confused. But with the kiss I think it was to either 1)make sure she still loves you. For her own personal benfit. Or 2) to tell you to wait but she still needs time. Don't give up to soon. But also don't persure her. That could scare her off. Remember everyone has there own lives secret or not. And has there own feeling to deal with. And through.

Exes who hang out are bound to have those weak moments of impulse. But like she told you don't put too much hope in it.

I have to say that hanging out with someone who dumped you is, NO WAY to get over them, or avoid false hope. But it's a good way to stay miserable.

Not very reassuring I know, but that's the way I see it.

She dumped you. Yeah that sucks.

Join the crew. Those excuses are just that, the real thing is that she wants out.

Its always our impulse to go after them, pour our heart out, fight for it. But...

Do the opposite. Take the high road. Go NC. No more kisses.

It'll help mend your heart. To learn & live happy again.

Do it.

Lakyn27,

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I hope you can find some advice there to help you with your situation.

Best of luck!

Jade