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shabeermy
Feb 9, 2011, 01:02 PM
Assalamu alaikum,

I got engaged in sept 22. I started talking to her in phone. So I'm asking you can I talk to her

ken007nielsen
Feb 9, 2011, 02:32 PM
I'm sorry, your question makes no sense to me.

talaniman
Feb 9, 2011, 05:22 PM
Ask her.

Alty
Feb 9, 2011, 06:02 PM
You're engaged and not sure if you're allowed to talk to your fiancé?

Wow! I'll never understand the difference in some cultures. I would think that talking to your future wife should be okay. Will you be allowed to talk to each other once you're married?

Makes no sense to me at all.

J_9
Feb 9, 2011, 10:03 PM
{moved to Islam}

AbuBakr_Fin
Feb 24, 2011, 06:08 AM
Wa àleikumus-Salaam. May Allaah bless you for having taqwa. No it`s not advisable to converse privately before marriage, because it`s similar to a case of you being alone with her. And you know the Hadiith that The Messenger of Allaah -sAaws- said there is not a case where a man is alone with a woman (non-maHram), but that Shaitaan is the third among them.
There should always be a wali present with her, or at least another sister, or a good brother with you, who hear and are present in the conversation, though they may or might not participate in it. It`s more advisable that you make nikaaH, and extend your relation with her as Halaal without danger of crossing Allaahs Huduud, and still be `engaged` in that you may have a fixed time that you get to know each other before you move together, OK? This is what I know, and Allaah knows best. And best whishes and Salaam to you both.