jcharliek
Jan 31, 2011, 04:32 PM
Ah, here I go. This isn't any really unusual situation, but any advice would really be helpful. What's happened is I've spilt up with my GF (let's face it, what else?) and I'm just very confused. O.K. so we're fourteen, but I really would say this has been a meaningful relationship - we've known each other for just about a year, been going out for roughly six months and always been closer than most. I won't deny it, we're shy together, but in my very humble opinion, it has been a true relationship. Someone had even passed a comment on to me saying how she wanted to tell me that she really did love me, in private, just a few days before.
The last few weeks before I suppose we'd been really busy, and on the occasions we should have seen each other, we didn't. Big woop. A few weeks before this, I'd like to point out, she cried because someone made a joke about us splitting up and things were more or less going strong and we were still close. But then also that weekend, I hadn't fully realised, but she'd made plans for us to do something - something we hadn't had chance to in a while. So, on Monday, after school she just asked me for a word and told me there and then that she wanted to be friends for now, she needed time to think and that things were going bad at home. Not many other reasons, I was too shocked to even think of asking.
And we've up. But the thing is, she's shy (in my eyes) and I'm more or less one hundred percent sure that the reason we spilt was not seeing each other enough, and that she just made it all up. But then, on frickin' Facebook of all places (she lives about an hour away, so we've always talked over there a lot, I'm ashamed to say - I dislike texting) she sent me a message (wow, how mature this all sounds) saying she wasn't going to ignore me, she didn't regret anything, she didn't think she was ready, wanted time to think, it wasn't my fault and it was all complicated, etc. etc. etc.. Then her older sister entered the fray to give me a bit of backhand advice on how she still cared, was upset and though she might have made the wrong decision. To be blunt, what the **** does that all mean, and how should I react?
At school we've more or less ignored each other, but I did catch her looking at me a few times. Highlight of my day, lol. And (another mature tipbit to nibble on) but she seems to have more or less died on Facebook. She definitely there, but doesn't do one thing (other than wish other people happy birthday) and she's even taken to erasing sometimes what she's done. Sulking, or what? :/
Right; question time. Thanks for reading through this, but what's the situation? Over, salvageable or some kind of break? Some advice for coping/attempting to get her back (I ain't over her yet) would be much appreciated. Or just speak your thoughts please :)
The last few weeks before I suppose we'd been really busy, and on the occasions we should have seen each other, we didn't. Big woop. A few weeks before this, I'd like to point out, she cried because someone made a joke about us splitting up and things were more or less going strong and we were still close. But then also that weekend, I hadn't fully realised, but she'd made plans for us to do something - something we hadn't had chance to in a while. So, on Monday, after school she just asked me for a word and told me there and then that she wanted to be friends for now, she needed time to think and that things were going bad at home. Not many other reasons, I was too shocked to even think of asking.
And we've up. But the thing is, she's shy (in my eyes) and I'm more or less one hundred percent sure that the reason we spilt was not seeing each other enough, and that she just made it all up. But then, on frickin' Facebook of all places (she lives about an hour away, so we've always talked over there a lot, I'm ashamed to say - I dislike texting) she sent me a message (wow, how mature this all sounds) saying she wasn't going to ignore me, she didn't regret anything, she didn't think she was ready, wanted time to think, it wasn't my fault and it was all complicated, etc. etc. etc.. Then her older sister entered the fray to give me a bit of backhand advice on how she still cared, was upset and though she might have made the wrong decision. To be blunt, what the **** does that all mean, and how should I react?
At school we've more or less ignored each other, but I did catch her looking at me a few times. Highlight of my day, lol. And (another mature tipbit to nibble on) but she seems to have more or less died on Facebook. She definitely there, but doesn't do one thing (other than wish other people happy birthday) and she's even taken to erasing sometimes what she's done. Sulking, or what? :/
Right; question time. Thanks for reading through this, but what's the situation? Over, salvageable or some kind of break? Some advice for coping/attempting to get her back (I ain't over her yet) would be much appreciated. Or just speak your thoughts please :)