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becky.boo
Jan 30, 2011, 07:51 AM
I'm 20 and very unexperienced with sex... my boyfriend of a year now has slept with several girls and I feel like I'm no good. He asks me to go on top (which I will do if I'm drunk), but when sober I am so nervous and worried I'm S***. It gets me really upset even though he he's never said anything but positives, but how could that be... :(

liongal
Jan 30, 2011, 11:24 AM
Go get yourself a techniques book, like the Kamasutra...

Kyu745
Jan 30, 2011, 06:36 PM
Take his compliments as what they are, compliments.
It is very commong for people dating someone with more sexual experience to feel uneasy.

My boyfriend and I were each other's first, but he does seem to know more than I do about stuff like that and I get nervous all the time about it. Sadly, it is perfectly normal, it doesn't feel like it is, but it truly is.

You really have nothing to worry about. Enjoy your sex life, and talk about it with him a little. Subtly ask him if there's any room for improvement, if he really likes or dislikes anything. Sex is for love and love is trust and communication.

Good luck!

ken007nielsen
Feb 6, 2011, 06:52 PM
The reason is that your still inexperienced, that's why you feel that way - because you don't have the same experience as him..

But don't worry I got some information to you, in my entire sex life - no girl has been exactly the same, all of them liked something different. What that basically means is each time you start sexual relations with a new person, all the things you have learned along the way doesent really matter that much. Because every time it's a new experience, but I'm certain there's things he preferes. But that's something for you to talk about at a point in your relations ship.

Most if not all guys can pretty much always be ready to get it on, but if you manage to stimulate him abit, through a massage(or somehting else, use your imagination) you could be lying still and the sex would still feel great because he is stimulated.

But I'm sure you could ask him what he likes, and if your been going out for a year I'm sure he's open to that question.

smoothy
Feb 7, 2011, 12:26 PM
Look at it this way. At 20 he is hardly any kind of authority to be judging you.

Lay off the booze... before you wake up pregnant one day and oblivious to how you got that way.