Hi I'm 17 years old and I have been messing with this guy that is SO great but I haven't had a orgasm and we have had sex 4 time I lost it to him so he's my first, even if he just fingers me I don't get anything out of it! Like when we have sex he tries so hard to make me have one but I never do! And people keep telling me to tell him what I like and I don't know cause he's my first and the only time I do anything its with him, I mean I love it but I don' orgasm! Is it just cause it will take a while cause I have only done it a couple time? Or is there anything I can do about it? Please help! Thanks

I think you and your boy friend is going directly to the intercourse without any foreplays. Some women takes more time to get orgasm. He might be finishing the sex before you get ready for it. Sometimes you might be worried of something while having sex with him which does not take you to the point of orgasm.

You told that you are only 17 so be careful in involving in any pre marital relations. You might get pregnant or you might get some sort of STDs.

My suggestions are here.

Try to involve in some sorts of foreplays before you guys get into sexual intercourse. There are so many things both of you can do to get yourself ready for sex. He can kiss you at many spots which will arouse your sexual interest. He can play with your genitals he can play with your clitoris etc. to make you hot. He should make you ready to go for sex. I am sure that he might have taken out his stuff and entered you without doing any such foreplays. Both of you must involve in some foreplays and you should have a cool mind without any tensions or worries. There are so many books which you can refer to find out the foreplays before sex. Wish you good luck next time.