mj2011
Jan 24, 2011, 08:16 AM
I first met John about 5 months ago, he approached me and asked me out, I saw him a about once a week and he would only text me midweek to see if I was available on the weekend so I took this as that he wasn't that interested/too busy and never initiated contact with him first. I asked him what our relationship was at about the 3 month mark and he said he wasn't able to deal with a relationship (came out of a controlling live in partnership approx 4 months before I met him)and that if I was cool with it then we had a friends with benefit type relationship. I wasn't cool with it so told him that and we didn't see each other for a couple of weeks when he came to collect his items from my house and then I asked him if he wanted to go out again which lasted another couple of weeks before I had enough again.
Friday night I accidentally bumped into him on a night out and we went back to my house and spent the night together
He sent this text through when I text him to say I didn't want to see him on the Sunday
"morning sexy lady, well i think im still recovering from fri night tbh (mentally & physically...it was amazing ;-)) you are prob right i should try and be productive and do my uni work instead :(
p.s.i kinda feel bad thinkin that u deserve someone who can give you more time and attention than i can... and i noticed just how many guys would be willing to give you that attention on fri night! But i know myself that im happy having selfish "me time" for the 1st time in my life and so dont wanna lead u up any garden paths with my mixed signals/crap communication skills... i do actually care for ur feelings and think ur lovely and thats why i feel so guilty after being so intimate with you knowing that i dont want anything serious with u or anyone else for that matter. gotta be true to myself and i do feel in a good place atm...i know there will be guys queuing up if u did want something more but ill always be around if you ever feel like a hug, kiss or just a chat"
Basically he is the nicest guy I think I have ever met and I totally respect him being honest about his feelings. What I want to know is if I stick around long enough for him to sort things out in his head, whether he may possibly think I am someone he could be happy with or would he have recognised that by now if I were and maybe he just isn't that into me and is waiting for someone else to come along?
He is a very busy person and is clearly enjoying doing his own thing without the hassle of any relationship problems so I would no way push him to see me more as I feel he should want to do that off his own back.
Does it take such a long time for a man to get over a previous sour relationships to realise not all women are like that? Or am I just being naïve because I think he is so nice?
I asked him if he had slept with anyone whilst we hadn't seen each other and he had said no he has been too busy to even think about it so I don't think he would have the time to see other women as well as me... sorry there are a lot of questions but I'm having an argument between my heart and my head and I need to put it to rest :)
Friday night I accidentally bumped into him on a night out and we went back to my house and spent the night together
He sent this text through when I text him to say I didn't want to see him on the Sunday
"morning sexy lady, well i think im still recovering from fri night tbh (mentally & physically...it was amazing ;-)) you are prob right i should try and be productive and do my uni work instead :(
p.s.i kinda feel bad thinkin that u deserve someone who can give you more time and attention than i can... and i noticed just how many guys would be willing to give you that attention on fri night! But i know myself that im happy having selfish "me time" for the 1st time in my life and so dont wanna lead u up any garden paths with my mixed signals/crap communication skills... i do actually care for ur feelings and think ur lovely and thats why i feel so guilty after being so intimate with you knowing that i dont want anything serious with u or anyone else for that matter. gotta be true to myself and i do feel in a good place atm...i know there will be guys queuing up if u did want something more but ill always be around if you ever feel like a hug, kiss or just a chat"
Basically he is the nicest guy I think I have ever met and I totally respect him being honest about his feelings. What I want to know is if I stick around long enough for him to sort things out in his head, whether he may possibly think I am someone he could be happy with or would he have recognised that by now if I were and maybe he just isn't that into me and is waiting for someone else to come along?
He is a very busy person and is clearly enjoying doing his own thing without the hassle of any relationship problems so I would no way push him to see me more as I feel he should want to do that off his own back.
Does it take such a long time for a man to get over a previous sour relationships to realise not all women are like that? Or am I just being naïve because I think he is so nice?
I asked him if he had slept with anyone whilst we hadn't seen each other and he had said no he has been too busy to even think about it so I don't think he would have the time to see other women as well as me... sorry there are a lot of questions but I'm having an argument between my heart and my head and I need to put it to rest :)